Try just speaking to everyone and turning everyone into you. At the gym, school, work, park, bar, wherever you are, draw people into you. Turn up the tease.
Dont pay attention to their attractiveness or face value, let this become your new way of dealing with people. When you are in a 2 or group, feel free to call strangers in and make them part of the conversation.
If you are in “on” mode, people will start approaching you as well.
So, befriend everybody, game everybody, dominance everybody, comfort everybody, rapport everybody, tease everybody, kino everybody, with you as the constant.
Fake confidence = the bad singers on american idol = deluded selves = entitlement = ego = confidence that is not backed by skills or experience, just your ideal or projection of how things should be.
People are afraid to get hurt, so people project this confidence and fake self (and get hurt anyway).
While the real shortcut is to get the experience skills and do the work that will naturally form confidence and serve to pass the “tests”.
Fake confidence relies on a loop of affirmations that have to be backed by results and confirmations. Say, if you have this ego that you are the no. 1 basketball player in the world, then you need to score, if you dont, you feel and experience a crush.
So one way to not get crushed once you have this fake confidence is not doing anyhing. Not wanting to do stuff nor wanting to get out of the mold, which translates to stress, and in Game this is:
“approach anxiety”
In contrast, if you just play basketball and your confidence isnt faked but backed by experience or curiosity or just “play” theres no big deal. If you lose you experience anger and disappointment, but in a way it refuels the tank to play even further.
And that makes you learn that its not about the ego but about the skill, so no “fake” no “unauthentic” but pure focus and detachment. And while you are focused and detached, your true self transpires. And thats attractive.
Thats why you will see a LOT of the top players on every field actually being HUMBLE and grateful, contrast that to the fakerish ego of the ones not doing the work.
If we had been raised by alphas, then we would be, or, would act like such. Just like most french people act french.
These french people arent “faking” being french, they are just repeating the patterns they learned through emulation and accepted to be real, and they developed their own personalities within these frames.
If you were born and raised in the USA and you want to pass for a french because people like frenchmen, then you would have to:
A) Go france and spend a lot of time and adopt the culture and become french.
or,
B) Fake french, pick an accent and say french bullshit that most people will swallow anyway.
So, fake has quicker results.
Problem is that you fake for the results and not because you love french, so, in the medium-short run, it will burn. It just will. The first time you get tested.
Turning this into alphaness:
Luckily, the alpha behavior is just manly behavior. If you are a man, and have your balls and testosterone and masculine brain, becoming alpha is NATURAL, is a natural drive, the same you feel when get competitive over sports etc. Chances are you have been repressing it and castrating it and all you have to do is to let it loose.
You can practice and do the game stuff to help yourself rediscover yourself.
If you keep the “fake” attitude, though, you are internally blocking yourself from being it, because you keep the internal frame that you are “not” so you have to “run it” on top of you.
If you want to become, first step is to abandon your nationality (red pill). Kill the beta, omega, whatever state you are now. Go deeper.
Then regrow from there. Do the game stuff if you want. But this aint “fake”.
This is just you relearning how to speak, and developing your own personality on top of the frame.
Like you were born in france.
Duh. You are already french. You are. Be it. Be a mofo alpha. Re acquire it. Let it be.
If you want an extra marshmallow, and the way to get it is not to eat your current marshmallow, self denial works.
If you dont want an extra marshmallow, or eating your current marshmallow doesnt get in the way, self denial is absurd.
Then Im not sure these kids understand their choice. I think most of them are just reacting to what they were told not to do. I think they fight eating the marshmallow because they were given instructions, not because they want the extra marshmallow that might come.
Then, not doing what you are told to is a path to success. Just because most people will tell you to stay quiet and dont do stupid, “keep you head low, boy”
So, restraining and self control are useful, but not on their own. Its the intelligence to shuffle between moving and not moving, acting on impulses while controlling other impulses, and understanding the repercussions and being able to pick a choice and stay on the path using your own will, what matters. That´s something that should be trained.
If you become what you do, and you approach this with a “faking it” mentality, you become a faker.
The part that works is the part you didnt fake: the courage to do the thing, go out, talk to people, use your brain to figure whats going on, etc, all of that is “real”.
Faking you are a pro tennis player doesnt make you one. Playing tennis does. If you invest all of the energy on the “real” game and forget the pretending part, that doubles your speed at learning.
What everybody hates about game is to se a non alpha (read, non worthy man) “faking” attributes and behavior and “tricking” women into thinking he is someone he is not for sex only.
A unworthy man doing all sorts of fake weirdo efforts to get a woman´s attention is cringe worthy.
Its a natural instinct: the best women are reserved for the alphas. Any deliberate effort feels try hard. We expect this to be natural and easy.
So, that´s why non alphas fear women = these women belong to someone else and courting them feels like the wrong / off thing to do. And the stuff you do to compensate the wrongness is all over the place.
So rather than learning game: become alpha, and all these girls will expect to be yours and jump on your lap without you having to chase-trick-or-game them individually.
It will feel good and natural for everybody, and fun to watch.
So whatever she says, it doesnt matter. Everything is ammo to flirt, tease, make laugh, enjoy her, have a good time, etc.
She is stiff? shy? LJBF? wants to talk about that dude who made her suffer? It doesnt matter. This is about me and her and this is the only frame Im considering.
Unless I dont consider her as relationship (short, long, whatever) material.
“frame” is more about mental boundaries. Its like the set of toys and tools.
“core” is what drives you and the backbone. When you dont have it, it feels like being broken.
So you can have a beta frame and still have a core/backbone, and an alpha frame and be broken.
When you dont have a core you take shit.
Frame is what determines what kind of shit you get.
So frame is the muscle, core is the bone
Frame isnt enough to sustain alpha. Frame might determine your set of skills, ideas, beliefs, etc, all you have to operate and interact with the world. But, frame being mental, it can be manipulated.
You can be manipulated, as long as something is presented in a way your frame can chew.
All your boundaries can be crossed and exploited and all your logics can be subverted, while you think you are doing things right and fair.
The core cannot be subverted. It can be bend, broken. The core is your own willingness to be happy. Core is what subverts and breaks the beta frame when you realize you have been fooled. The core is what gets angry, core is what holds you from becoming what you dont want to become, what rejects a frame that is used against you, even when it might sound right
So that.
I spent a few years coreless, I got it back. Now that I have it, its all about making it yet more powerful. And growing a frame big enough around it so my core is protected.
Just so you know, this blog is / should be about my music and artistry development, along with my pub chat & philosophy, and a store to post my content, music, stuff. Im working to make that happen.
As far as pub philosophy and heated discussions, commenting on Susan´s or Rivelino´s works just fine for now. I have a shitload of ideas Im going to post here when Im done with the design… so this site is coming back, or getting born, and its going to take your pants off.
Game everybody, regardless of gender, looks or status.
If you discriminate, you will see some targets as harder and some as easier, some as precious, some as not worthy. You will be playing in a ladder, reacting to the other persons value, caring about the outcome. Game will be something you think about and calibrate, instead of something you are.
But if game becomes who you are, if you just play the game, work the room, set the mood, get your way, stamp your mark and touch everybody regardless of gender, looks, status, then results will throw at you without you really paying attention, without you caring, without you discriminating. The response will be generous because you are.
Game will be natural, and success will be natural as well.
Every word you say invokes a meaning, pulls a context, nurtures a frame.
Saying “nice” puts you in the nice frame, “problem” makes you the problem, “happy” pulls the happy, “struggle” makes you struggle. Calling somebody a “loser” puts the “loser” word in your mouth, saying “sorry” makes you a sorry person, saying something is “delicious” makes you part of the delicious reality.
You might think you are talking about external subjects, but you are always the subject, you are the one carrying the meaning, the one choosing to perceive, to connect the dots, the one elaborating, pouring it out.
Every time you pronounce a word, you trigger a process that gives the world a piece of you, and asks the world to give you back that same thing.
Just like when a kid says “milk” and he gets it.
Everything you say is your signature, every word is your epitaph.
Every door you open leads to another door. Every step you take makes every subsequent step easier.
I remember a segment from that “endless story” book. The boy was lost in a door maze. Every time he opened a door, it led to another room with even more doors. He could be lost forever there. So after a while he didnt open doors at random, but he would look for small signs, scratches, symbols, details, and pick the door that, in his mind, looked more like an exit. The next room had a door that resembled the one he had just opened, but exaggerated, and the next room, one even more obvious. After seven or so iterations, he got out.
My point here is everything you do, every opportunity you take, leads to more opportunities of the same kind. Whatever you do, it grants you permission to do more of the same, and the skill to do it better. This, in business, in relationships, in life, just means whatever you do, grants you will do more of it, and the more you do it, the more naturally it will happen. So this has to be your decision.
If you, instead of taking random opportunities as they come, take the chances you need to move forward, if you decide the door you want and cross it, the next similar door will be awaiting ready, and an even more ready new door after that.
If you decide a path instead of letting the world decide it for you, if you take, right now, that small step out of the maze in a focused, conscious, desired direction, and then do it once and again, you are already out.
Just go. All of the doors are already open. The key for each door is the door that precedes it. The first door in the sequence is the one in front of you.
Instead of romanticizing about struggle, walk. Pick your direction. Go.
I have been tracking coaches, gurus, self improving models. Theres a common denominator, in that they spend way too much time excited about resistance, fear, paralysis. What are your resistances? where are your fears? why are you not doing what you want? If you died tomorrow, what would be your legacy?
It should be all about win.
By preaching pain, you induce pain. By talking about fear and paralysis, you experience fear and paralysis. If you go deep about the reasons you are not doing what you want, you make those obstacles the subject.
The revealing part is when people cant talk in detail about certain subjects, but they can scream, fight, retreat and feel offended about them. Too prone to attack, too prone to peak, to take sides, to invest their emotions, to take the focus away from the subject, and focus on how they feel about it.
You know you have found a sleeper, a believer, a follower: someone going through the motions, going with the flow, without knowing where, nor why.
Or maybe you have found a source, a manipulator, a dark leader: the one projecting the shadow.
Follow the rules, break a couple, that’s the recipe for genius.
If you follow all of the rules, you blend in, become invisible.
If you break all the rules you become noise.
But if you learn most of the rules of a game, follow them to perfection, and blatantly break a couple, theres enough mix of belonging and rebellion, enough for people to care.
The trick to make this work: instead of just “breaking” rules, replace the less important aspects of your game, with the most distinctive aspects of a different game.
The problem with Assange / Wikileaks is the whole thing.
Assange doesnt come from a position of power but from a creepy frame.
This doesnt mean he is wrong: he is kind of a hero. All the power in the world, right now, is in the hands of evil, and evil owns the media. So any goodness, right now, has to emerge from not so shiny places.
Still we cant sympathise with him. He is a creep as a man: girls dont want to fuck him, guys dont want to be him.
Then this “leak” word. Whenever you find a leak at your home, you want to fix it. If you realized you had a toxic leak, you would be happy about finding the issue, but angry about the leak. Knowing is good, knowing through a leak isnt. “Leak” means theres a lack of control, it feels wrong.
Simply put, bad marketing. You cant expect people to listen to facts when their instincts are in alert state because something feels wrong, low status, and comes as a threat. Assange defeats himself by amassing public attention while triggering the wrong instincts on the public.
If he had pulled a macho alpha’s charisma and named his project “The-SHIELD. Exposing truth, defending our people”, he would have won this battle.
Assange is the reverse mirror of Al Gore. Gore has the all charisma and instinct management, but none of the facts nor balls.
My name is Yohami.
Im a Singer/Songwriter.
Im on my way to have fun. 
