Half of it is still about putting the woman in a pedestal and doing stuff for her, just that this time the stuff you do is “emulate, simulate and pretend” you are the kind of man she wants.
The other half is about punishing her for making you jump trough hoops, and resenting her for not loving you for who you really are.
So in one extreme you have the PUA monkeys who do numbers game, collect phones, try lines, try the “stuff that works”, try “closing” and take a count of notches and try to get validation from women´s acceptance – and I say “try” because its a fake one: they get validation of a technique and a mascara, its not core, inner, real validation, the women would dump them if they were themselves, and they know it.
Which leads to the other extreme, the ones who get so disenchanted to the women´s real nature and the tricks they play they have no longer love or respect for them, even when they keep wishing they would, so they engage and stop engaging and go in a downward spiral of self hate and women hate for playing the game and doing the game.
Right in the middle, though, if you understand whats going on, you can take the data in and change for real, without betraying who you really are because the real “you” switches to another thing. A path of character development, social skills and savyness. Thing is, you dont need to “emulate” something you can actually be, or were born to be. Part of this whole thing that brought up game, is that men are emasculated. If you remove the emasculation and let your stuff grow manly and shiny, it happens that your natural behavior will be close to what Game describes.
So, become alpha, rather than emulate alpha.
In my experience becoming and doing the real work is easier than faking and emulating. Having it and not caring that you have it, easier than pretending you have it and trying to convince everyone you do.
So read the game and practice stuff, and avoid becoming a monkey, and avoid becoming a dark persona. Both frames are beta (not the nurturing type) and will hurt you more than help you in the long ride.
If I was the omnipotent leader of the world, I wouldnt allow single motherhood.
And to become a parent you would have to be in a relationship that was at least 5 years long, and the couple should score high in a lot of psychological and character tests.
And everyone would be sterilized from birth and would need to pass those tests to get fertile again.
Until you break your programming you have no real way to know if your goodness and aims are programming or something deeper. You have to really break yourself and go “bad” and do out of your comfort zone.
But the stuff to keep checking continually is if what you are doing, the person you are becoming, is stabilizing towards happy or unhappy, if you are getting bitter or sweeter.
The people who decide to become evil also become bitter. Its not just that they resign moral values but that they resign feeling good. So resign to the morals and stuff and limits and impositions and logics that were planted on you and constitute “good” now, and dive into darkness and chaos and pain.
But do it because you aim for higher happiness. Not because you gave up on it.
Go aggressively and frontally into the unknown, and use bitter / sweeter to guide yourself while in the dark. If you find yourself becoming bitter, aim upper.
You will methaphorically die and come back from the other side with a stronger aim, phoenix esque.
Some people are on top some people are at the bottom. A lot of the people at the top are evil and a lot of the people at the bottom are good. This becomes another generalization:
Top = evil
Bottom = good
So eventually when the good people at the bottom decide to go to the top, they choose to become evil, as in “sell your soul for some results”
Which is as stupid as it can get. I care a lot about the passage from being at the bottom to being at the top and keeping all your goodness and more, not just because its my path but because I see a lot of people stuck and spinning in circles and bouncing walls, the same walls I bounced or so.
Rivelino is back with a story, from the comments.:
modern feminism on the soccer field
alternate titles:
- just another reason why i hate american women
- feminism rears its ugly head yet again
- should girls even play sports??
- hit me you fat bitch
- just like that indian reality tv show
- what the fuck is going on with american women
- can american women get any more aggressive?? i say no.
- this is exactly what yohami was talking about
anyway, let’s get on with the story.
so i play on three soccer teams, all three are coed. on my sunday team, they have all played together for a while now. the captain, eric, is a nice guy, but a total beta. he is chubby and he barely plays. he just is more or less the organizer. he does it to have friends.
so this is only my second season with the team, and while i like the team, i don’t exactly “click” with them, because they are more lowbrow. more like go to hooters and get drunk type of people.
so our game today, we are playing our arch rivals, the team we lost to in the championship last season. we have a new player adonis who is very good. he plays semi professional. eric likes to recruit top talent.
adonis is always picking fights though, and likes to play rough, even with the female players, and with the ref. he is belligerent. takes the game way too seriously.
so in the first half we are playing well, and up 2-0. then adonis runs over a female player, and the captain of the other team rushes adonis and they almost get into a fight but our captain eric separates them. the ref for some reason ejects both adonis and the other team captain, who like eric, doesn’t play much, just likes to be captain.
without adonis, and with only one male substitute, we start getting tired. by halftime it is 2-2.
second half, they switch me from midfield to defense, because our male defender is tired. so i am playing with amber, this fat, squat, short female blonde with attitude. i actually had not played with her before, but later i find out she has played with the team for a while.
we are playing a 2-3-2, meaning me and amber are the only two defenders. our midfield is tired, and so we are getting a lot of fast breaks coming our way, with numbers against us, and usually at my side, the right side. amber starts ripping on me, yelling at me, and telling me not to be scared of the ball. wtf??
she is doing this because like a good defender, i don’t overcommit, especially when the other team is attacking with more players than we had to defend. the strategy there is to slow down the attack until the midfielders can come back to help defend.
amber like a good feminist cunt, likes to play really aggressive, which is dangerous. she is not a bad defender, mind you — for a girl — but her yelling at me is really pissing me off.
finally i start talking back. not a good idea. amber is the worst kind of woman, an angry feminist who is channeling A LOT of masculine energy. she thinks she is better than me, has no idea what is going on, and is getting frustrated that we are now losing 4-2, none of the goals being my fault, and in fact them being more her fault than anyone else’s. but still, she has to let out her anger, and once i start talking back, she has a target.
she overcommits two more times, and we got scored on two more times, so now it is 6-2, and i can’t help but jab back at her — i told you not to overcommit! i tell her — but that is not a good idea.
amber literally starts threatening me with violence. she says, shut the fuck up or i will go over there and slap you! then she adds, i will hit you! — and i can’t believe what i am hearing.
has american feminism come to this?? do american girls now relish getting off on threats of violence, to men twice their size?? wtf is going on here?
i don’t know what to do, so ignore her. but the other team hears her yelling at me and threating to slap me, and they of course start laughing. it is incredibly embarrassing and humiliating for me, and i am in shock that it is even happening.
immediately i think of the indian reality tv show that yohami posted, and how i am completely shackled. there is nothing i can do. frame control can’t help me now. i screwed up by being reactive initially — even though she kept on yelling at me to “play better defense” when i was playing excellent defense, and SHE was the weak link in the defense — and the fact that adonis get kicked out, everyone our team was tired, we were playing our arch rival — it was a bad situation.
still — threats of violence?? and she loved it too. cause she KNEW that i could do nothing about it. it was JUST like yohami talked about. the world is now officially upside down.
the game ends. i am so angry that i make a great run right before the end of the game and almost score — but don’t. i didn’t help that i didn’t play my best game — and it turns out that i guess amber is “entrenched” in the team — so i have a lot less value than she does — and after the game, i go up to our captain and say, eric, what’s up with your girl?, and typical beta, he replies:
“bro, we have some STRONG women on this team, and i have learned not to talk back to them, it’s just not a good idea. and now we have people mad at you for talking back to her, and this is my sunday, and i don’t want drama.”
he literally then goes around and invites everyone else to go to hooters after the game, but doesn’t mention it to me.
wow.
so that’s my sunday afternoon story. fucking short fat amber, built like a truck, fueled by feminist rage, going off on me, telling me she is going to slap me and hit me, i mean, seriously.
can you IMAGINE anything like this 5o years ago? 100 years ago?
maybe coed leagues are a bad idea overall, because it does get kinda aggressive, and sometimes i have to knock over a girl because she is in my way — and she gets in my way ON PURPOSE because she wants to play the victim, and sometimes the ref calls it the guy’s way, sometimes the girl’s way.
yeah, girls should play with girls, guys with guys. a little mystery, people.
and should girls even be playing sports?? back when i was a beta, i bought into all those nike commercials — “if you let me play, i will be less likely to be raped” etc etc — now i think that is all bullshit. girls should play tennis and that’s it. even tennis, which does give girls great legs, may make their backs to big.
fuck sports. BALLET MOTHERFUCKER. girls should do ballet and dance and cheerleading.
Timothy* posted this video on the comments and it blew me away.
A woman slaps a man, then the man slaps her back. As soon as he does, a horde of men come to the rescue and kick him to the floor, while the lady, who was the initial agressor, walks away all proud.
So can you imagine that scenario reversed? Would a horde of women go kick a woman after she slaps the man who just slapped her? nope.
We are animals, we are stupid, we have hormones, we are men and women, men want to protect women, women want to protect themselves, and protect their kids. Hard to fight any of that.
You gotta be kidding if you think men have the same sympathy vote power. We dont. We can, instead, call for higher ideals, side to fight a common enemy, do the right thing, etc. We can unite for goals, we can unite to protect women and children, but we just dont unite as strongly when a man screams “help”.
And specially we dont when there´s a woman to protect, and the guy screaming “help” is portrayed as the wronger.
“No offense, but I’m pretty sure I’m gonna limit the group blog to people who acknowledge that feminism is a valuable movement, even if they disagree.”
Feminism is valuable in the sense that it grants SOCIAL RIGHTS to people. Feminism is also destructive in the way its depriving of social rights and shaming and committing the same crimes its supposed to correct.
“Are you… seriously trying to argue that the time period which believed that if women went to school they would become infertile half-men (i.e. before women could vote) WASN’T sexist? Um, wow. Good luck with that.”
It was VERY sexist, very biased, very racist, very square minded, very classist, very stupid. Guess what, more or less like now, just balanced differently. When you go back and see all the injusticies done to women, there were parallel injusticies done to men. When you check the big picture of the men / women dynamics, you´ll find how everyone is always screwed up, and that a lot of the points the MRA guys make are valid.
So, I look back and look now and see the injusticies, I feel sympathy and want to help and make things fair for everyone. Feminism, however, cares about “everyone but men”, thus, making it fair to women without caring about men, only makes things even less fair to men, and thats the sole point of MRA.
Its such a simple thing really.
Stuff as simple as Feminism looking at third world poor countries and caring about “women and children”, what about men?
Or some figures saying that the real victims of war are “women and children”, what about men?
Or this “all soldiers are rapists”, really? so if some country messes with us and I go fight to defend your life, that makes me a rapist? fuck you?
If theres war with Canada and your boyfriends gets recruited (forced into the army against his will) but he does go to fight, is he a rapist now?
Whenever Feminism says stuff about men, just figure, for a moment, that they are talking about black people.
Imagine every time a woman kicks somebody balls on tv, picture thats a white man kicking a black man´s balls. Picture a white man kicking a woman´s clit. Not good, right?
Imagine a political movement looking at Africa and the poverty and wars and saying, hey people we really care about you: the real victims of this are the white people living there, lets get them weapons”
This is so obvious, the bias is so mean, so apparent, and hiding on plain sight. The only explanation of why feminists swallow this is they are just demonizing a whole gender and playing the victim role to the bottom. Its like they are enthranced by a religious spell.
Honey, men are capable of love, justice, hard work, invention, humor, warm feelings, fatherhood, brotherhood, loverhood, etc.
Every time I see a movement like Feminism finding injustices I go “YES”, but then when they come up with theories and dogmas and implementations, I go “WHAT THE FUCK ARE THEY THINKING”
Its so evil, it has to be on purpose. That, or people is really, really stupid.
EDIT:
MRA is very important. I doubt anybody will listen though. We are not wired to care about whiny grown up men, we expect men to overcome and solve and save the world or die trying.
MRA is like the firemen, with the water and yellow helmets and pumping machines, crying scared that there is a fire in the building. Why dont YOU fix the issue? thats what everybody is expecting. Screaming “help” is what girls and childs do. You are the firemen. We cant help you. You help us.
Men’s drive is about going where no one has been and finding a treasure.
Womens drive is about protecting the treasure and keeping it healty.
The ovule and the sperm.
Men formulate theories and stuff and solve the problem of how to get there.
Women formulate theories and stuff to solve the problem of how to attract and keep the quality stuff.
If we were all men no one would be keeping the civilization.
If we were all women “civilization” would be something with “quotes”.
You might find this crazy, but in men, self esteem, swagger, confidence and a lot of other attractive traits are linked to the men´s position on the men´s ladder. This means when a man wins he tends to behave like a winner, and when he loses, he behaves like a loser.
Men have this “let the best man win”, which also means when you are the loser one, you dont claim a piece of the cake, you let the winners, the alpha dudes take it.
The exception are the badboys / jerks, the males that for whatever reason, dont feel like playing by a code and want the rewards without putting the effort nor “earning” the prizes. The badboys can display all the attractive traits with nothing to back that behavior = void attractiveness. You can complain about such men all you want and you´ll be right.
Game = an attempt to teach betas to act and feel beyond their real ladder value. Very anti-nature, if you ask men.
So, in a society that pushes men down, money wise or labor wise or whatever, all the good men will go down and behave in a way that matches their reality: losers, betadom, depression, not trying, etc. and they will think they are doing “the right thing” while they are at it.
So in such society, how do you expect to find low-income men (losers) that display attractive traits and behave like they belong to your upper class?
Chances are they will feel you are above of them, and the instinct is to let the women that are out of your reach, go. And when you deal with them, you wont feel any spark: you wont see them as men.
Then you might meet a bad boy and yada yada.
This stuff is simple. Men have to come back. The rules have to be fair for everyone, so good men can be men.
In case you are wondering, Rivelino got his cover identity busted by BG, his real-life-woman-friend who developed a violent crush on him after he “practiced” game on her and kept her as a beta orbiter.
How did she bust him? Rivelino asked her to look up “frame control” on blogs. Guess whose blog is number 4 when you google frame control? his own. Duh. Seriously?
“20 May 2011 by Rivelino
so i was teaching BG frame control at company x before i left, and we still have lunch every week or two, and i teach her more every so often. also, she read the celestine prophecy. and she is a smart chick. … http://alpharivelino.wordpress.com/“
File this under “Batman, dont tell the Joker to google the batcave”.
So. BG always came across as a creepy dangerous stalker, and once threated Riv she would cut his balls if she found he was doing a case study on her. Whats her next move now? How will our hero respond? if his body disappears, who will be calling the cops?
Dramatic story in development.
PS. for whose dont know him, Rivelino is the writer behind the betaness-to-alphaness soap opera blog BECOMING ALPHA
I remember this song scared me when I listened to it for the first time.
It was WAY out there and politically incorrect for me, I was a 17 years old omega boy. This song made me feel angst, rage, hope, lack of hope, isolation, nihilism, etc. Then came Pearl Jam and Red Hot Chilli Peppers and the glourious MTV and all the sorts of its good to be an honest freak movement.
So after a while, like I usually do when I discover hidden aspects of the world or myself, I embraced it. I became a grungie boy and formed my first band, all grunge fashion, all statement: we are fucked up and there´s no future, but we are all saints.
Then before I got to anything, the world changed. It got all watered down with fake punk pop of Green Day, Blink, Avril, etc. It wasnt a movement, it was a fashion.
Now when I go back and watch and listen, I dont see the rage nor the saints nor the sincerity. I hear production. I hear the SSL console, the mics, the API preamps, the Massenburg EQ and the overdubs, I hear the chorus on the bass, I listen compression and the carving on the tracks and the production value, and the stuff I would do better.
I see the lighting, the smoke, the mirrors, the stage, the setup, all the nice layers of lets-make-you-fat candy.
If you are alpha and someone crosses your boundaries, that someone is the one failing the test.
Nice guys beta puas etc, when the girl attempts to cross a boundary, see it as a “test” that the girl is presenting, like the girl was a teacher and was trying to teach a lesson or something. Or worse case scenario they see it as a demand from some superior being that they need to please.
Guys: if the girl is trying to walk over you, just put her in her place in whatever fashion you feel like, and with the same intelligence you need when dealing with a child.
Its not about pleasing her and passing a test and getting a cookie. Its about having steel, clear, bold, non-crossable boundaries and standing for them no matter what the situation is. And being cool and assertive about it.
Just like yoga. If your motivation is good, you can change your mind by changing your body.
If you go to the gym or play tennis or exercise or run, even if you “dont feel like it”, the body will segregate the hormones and chemicals and stuff and will affect your mind. If you keep it, you will eventually feel like it.
And if you are down, doing high energy stuff the stuff energizes you. Not acting down nor depressed helps not being down nor depressed.
However if life is fucked up, improving your attitude wont solve the fucked up issues – on its own. Smiling when you are in shit storm only makes you a fool who smiles to the shit storms.
So work your bigger body: the world surrounding you. Fix whatever has to be fixed and do whatever it takes to actually have a life that makes you smile, makes you proud, a life which screams “you are the shit!”, so you dont have to sustain your state against the nature, but instead you can rely on nature to sustain your state, so you can focus on more productive issues.
To change, you have to learn to redirect your “natural” – which are mostly learned – tendencies, into new ones. Change the beta or whatever frame you are into alpha and be as-if, and try to feel as-if and experience your mind change.
It wont feel natural, it wont be in your comfort zone, it wont be “you”, it wont be familiar, it will be scary, it will be good.
She replied that she found it arrogant and obnoxious?
That only means you have to do it more. Take these apparently negative remarks “asshole, dick, prick, arrogant” as the compliments they are. “Bad” boys are attractive, “good” boys are not.
So dont break eye contact, greet with a nod upwards, not downwards, keep your frame, be friendly but not respectful. Tease.
She will try to “fight you” and put your arrogance down, aka “testing”, and she will love it, too.
My ideal society is a game where everybody gets the same initial money & opportunities but no one has a limit on how far he/she can get other than the self imposed.
In my ideal society the bank cant print fake money.
And there are no country borders.
And laws / police are set in a way no player can exploit another player.
And meritocracy works.
And criminals go to jail / and get retrained.
And people in power cares about solving problems, rather than getting more power.
“Overall its a failure, but at least he tried”. Not.
So check that video, thats why I hate “fake” so much.
When you spend your life trying to be somebody else, life is just a chain of wasted moments, plus you lose the girl, plus your own self respect, plus any confidence you had, plus you enter a downspiral to be filled with only more fake and loserdom.
“Fake until you make it” my balls.
Fake might get you featured on tv so we can all make fun of you.
A man´s attractiveness is linked to his confidence/dominance/indifference.
Men are supposed to be big, dominant, muscular, able to kill monsters, defend a family, defeat other men. And happiness as a man is linked to doing these things. But how much time do you have to smile?
Sort a bunch of male pictures and rank them. More dominant, stronger first and weaker last. Check where the smiles rank in that order.
Then, smiling is a way to seek approval / dissipate tensions / signaling peace. Smiling says: “Im not looking for conflict”
Men are supposed to be busy on a big scale mission saving the world and defusing a bomb or fighting the enemy or hunting moby dick or whatever. If you get to smile on top of that, it better be a cocky smile.
My name is Yohami.
Im a Singer/Songwriter.
Im on my way to have fun. 
