24 May 2011, Posted by yohami in game, 6 Comments.

What everybody hates about game

What everybody hates about game is to se a non alpha (read, non worthy man) “faking” attributes and behavior and “tricking” women into thinking he is someone he is not for sex only.

A unworthy man doing all sorts of fake weirdo efforts to get a woman´s attention is cringe worthy.

Its a natural instinct: the best women are reserved for the alphas. Any deliberate effort feels try hard. We expect this to be natural and easy.

So, that´s why non alphas fear women = these women belong to someone else and courting them feels like the wrong / off thing to do. And the stuff you do to compensate the wrongness is all over the place.

So rather than learning game: become alpha, and all these girls will expect to be yours and jump on your lap without you having to chase-trick-or-game them individually.

It will feel good and natural for everybody, and fun to watch.

24 May 2011, Posted by yohami in game,inner game, 1 Comment.

If you consistently behave like every girl has the hots for you

If you consistently behave like every girl has the hots for you, while you dont find them particularly attractive, you´re set.

Really, simple as that. Everything else is just the natural evolution from that state.

24 May 2011, Posted by yohami in game,relationships, 4 Comments.

So whatever she says, it doesnt matter.

So whatever she says, it doesnt matter. Everything is ammo to flirt, tease, make laugh, enjoy her, have a good time, etc.

She is stiff? shy? LJBF? wants to talk about that dude who made her suffer? It doesnt matter. This is about me and her and this is the only frame Im considering.

Unless I dont consider her as relationship (short, long, whatever) material.

24 May 2011, Posted by yohami in game,inner game,personal, 2 Comments. Tagged inner game

Frame is the muscle, Core is the bone

“frame” is more about mental boundaries. Its like the set of toys and tools.

“core” is what drives you and the backbone. When you dont have it, it feels like being broken.

So you can have a beta frame and still have a core/backbone, and an alpha frame and be broken.

When you dont have a core you take shit.

Frame is what determines what kind of shit you get.

So frame is the muscle, core is the bone

Frame isnt enough to sustain alpha. Frame might determine your set of skills, ideas, beliefs, etc, all you have to operate and interact with the world. But, frame being mental, it can be manipulated.

You can be manipulated, as long as something is presented in a way your frame can chew.

All your boundaries can be crossed and exploited and all your logics can be subverted, while you think you are doing things right and fair.

The core cannot be subverted. It can be bend, broken. The core is your own willingness to be happy. Core is what subverts and breaks the beta frame when you realize you have been fooled. The core is what gets angry, core is what holds you from becoming what you dont want to become, what rejects a frame that is used against you, even when it might sound right

So that.

I spent a few years coreless, I got it back. Now that I have it, its all about making it yet more powerful. And growing a frame big enough around it so my core is protected.

24 May 2011, Posted by yohami in game,relationships, 6 Comments.

Do girls put their emotional garbage on dudes they are attracted to / trying to seduce?

99% of the times I kept talking to a girl I liked and allowed her to use me as her emotional tampon, I got a “Lets Jut Be Friends”.

If you feel like testing that, go forward and be her therapist.

24 May 2011, Posted by yohami in personal, No Comments.

Im back, sort of

So, the new site isnt ready, yet.

I´ve been saving my ideas and future posts on a .txt file that is getting ridiculously big, so this old blog is officially my new .txt file.

Im back, sort of.

20 Apr 2011, Posted by yohami in personal, 3 Comments.

Im coming back!

Just so you know, this blog is / should be about my music and artistry development, along with my pub chat & philosophy, and a store to post my content, music, stuff. Im working to make that happen.

As far as pub philosophy and heated discussions, commenting on Susan´s or Rivelino´s works just fine for now. I have a shitload of ideas Im going to post here when Im done with the design… so this site is coming back, or getting born, and its going to take your pants off.

Yeah I said that.

16 Feb 2011, Posted by yohami in game, 9 Comments.

Game everybody, regardless of gender, looks or status.

If you discriminate, you will see some targets as harder and some as easier, some as precious, some as not worthy. You will be playing in a ladder, reacting to the other persons value, caring about the outcome. Game will be something you think about and calibrate, instead of something you are.

But if game becomes who you are, if you just play the game, work the room, set the mood, get your way, stamp your mark and touch everybody regardless of gender, looks, status, then results will throw at you without you really paying attention, without you caring, without you discriminating. The response will be generous because you are.

Game will be natural, and success will be natural as well.

01 Jan 2011, Posted by yohami in thoughts, 6 Comments.

Everything you say is about you

Everything you say is about you.

Every word you say invokes a meaning, pulls a context, nurtures a frame.

Saying “nice” puts you in the nice frame, “problem” makes you the problem, “happy” pulls the happy, “struggle” makes you struggle. Calling somebody a “loser” puts the “loser” word in your mouth, saying “sorry” makes you a sorry person, saying something is “delicious” makes you part of the delicious reality.

You might think you are talking about external subjects, but you are always the subject, you are the one carrying the meaning, the one choosing to perceive, to connect the dots, the one elaborating, pouring it out.

Every time you pronounce a word, you trigger a process that gives the world a piece of you, and asks the world to give you back that same thing.

Just like when a kid says “milk” and he gets it.

Everything you say is your signature, every word is your epitaph.

30 Dec 2010, Posted by yohami in thoughts, 2 Comments.

Every door you open leads to another door

Every door you open leads to another door. Every step you take makes every subsequent step easier.

I remember a segment from that “endless story” book. The boy was lost in a door maze. Every time he opened a door, it led to another room with even more doors. He could be lost forever there. So after a while he didnt open doors at random, but he would look for small signs, scratches, symbols, details, and pick the door that, in his mind, looked more like an exit. The next room had a door that resembled the one he had just opened, but exaggerated, and the next room, one even more obvious. After seven or so iterations, he got out.

My point here is everything you do, every opportunity you take, leads to more opportunities of the same kind. Whatever you do, it grants you permission to do more of the same, and the skill to do it better. This, in business, in relationships, in life, just means whatever you do, grants you will do more of it, and the more you do it, the more naturally it will happen. So this has to be your decision.

If you, instead of taking random opportunities as they come, take the chances you need to move forward, if you decide the door you want and cross it, the next similar door will be awaiting ready, and an even more ready new door after that.

If you decide a path instead of letting the world decide it for you, if you take, right now, that small step out of the maze in a focused, conscious, desired direction, and then do it once and again, you are already out.

Just go. All of the doors are already open. The key for each door is the door that precedes it. The first door in the sequence is the one in front of you.

Instead of romanticizing about struggle, walk. Pick your direction. Go.

It aint the climb. Its the win.

30 Dec 2010, Posted by yohami in thoughts, No Comments.

So much of coaching is against achieving results

So much of coaching is against achieving results.

I have been tracking coaches, gurus, self improving models. Theres a common denominator, in that they spend way too much time excited about resistance, fear, paralysis. What are your resistances? where are your fears? why are you not doing what you want? If you died tomorrow, what would be your legacy?

It should be all about win.

By preaching pain, you induce pain. By talking about fear and paralysis, you experience fear and paralysis. If you go deep about the reasons you are not doing what you want, you make those obstacles the subject.

And the subject should be, win.

30 Dec 2010, Posted by yohami in thoughts, 4 Comments.

The revealing part is when people cant talk in detail about certain subjects

The revealing part is when people cant talk in detail about certain subjects, but they can scream, fight, retreat and feel offended about them. Too prone to attack, too prone to peak, to take sides, to invest their emotions, to take the focus away from the subject, and focus on how they feel about it.

You know you have found a sleeper, a believer, a follower: someone going through the motions, going with the flow, without knowing where, nor why.

Or maybe you have found a source, a manipulator, a dark leader: the one projecting the shadow.

29 Dec 2010, Posted by yohami in thoughts, 2 Comments.

Follow the rules, break a couple, that’s the recipe for genius

Follow the rules, break a couple, that’s the recipe for genius.

If you follow all of the rules, you blend in, become invisible.

If you break all the rules you become noise.

But if you learn most of the rules of a game, follow them to perfection, and blatantly break a couple, theres enough mix of belonging and rebellion, enough for people to care.

The trick to make this work: instead of just “breaking” rules, replace the less important aspects of your game, with the most distinctive aspects of a different game.

20 Dec 2010, Posted by yohami in politics, 6 Comments.

The problem with Assange / Wikileaks is the whole thing

The problem with Assange / Wikileaks is the whole thing.

Assange doesnt come from a position of power but from a creepy frame.

This doesnt mean he is wrong: he is kind of a hero. All the power in the world, right now, is in the hands of evil, and evil owns the media. So any goodness, right now, has to emerge from not so shiny places.

Still we cant sympathise with him. He is a creep as a man: girls dont want to fuck him, guys dont want to be him.

Then this “leak” word. Whenever you find a leak at your home, you want to fix it. If you realized you had a toxic leak, you would be happy about finding the issue, but angry about the leak. Knowing is good, knowing through a leak isnt. “Leak” means theres a lack of control, it feels wrong.

Simply put, bad marketing. You cant expect people to listen to facts when their instincts are in alert state because something feels wrong, low status, and comes as a threat. Assange defeats himself by amassing public attention while triggering the wrong instincts on the public.

If he had pulled a macho alpha’s charisma and named his project “The-SHIELD. Exposing truth, defending our people”, he would have won this battle.

Assange is the reverse mirror of Al Gore. Gore has the all charisma and instinct management, but none of the facts nor balls.

19 Dec 2010, Posted by yohami in thoughts, 2 Comments.

Mind refuses change

Mind refuses change. The trick is to change anyway.

16 Dec 2010, Posted by yohami in game, 3 Comments.

I think chivalry is fine as an alpha trait

I think chivalry is fine as an alpha male trait, and absurd as a beta one. I think the story is false / one-sided. There is no way girls used to fall in love with beta men who put them in pedestals.

Maybe if they had lived in a tower and believed in fairy tales and had never seen a cock before marriage. But then reality would strike, and they would be fucking whatever alpha they could and turn their marriage into a cuckhold, or would grow up resentful and trapped.

So I dont think this ever worked.

When it comes down to chivalry / niceness / sensibility, these traits can increment the value of a man who is already attractive, but also rest value from the man if he isnt attractive enough. Unsolicited love + nice + beta + chivalry = creep.

The more I look at feminism, the more I see it as the women´s desire to get rid of their beta male captors. They want the alpha and no beta no rules no society is going to hold them down anymore.

15 Dec 2010, Posted by yohami in conversations,game, 3 Comments.

No, for a relationship to work you just need to be a MAN

Rivelino says:

“so for a relationship to work, the man needs to assume the burden of being strong, and being determined, and of taking on some sort of life mission. ”

Yohami says:

No, for a relationship to work you just need to be a MAN. If thats a burden, then you are not the MAN, next.

You see it as a burden because you dont see it in you, not because it isnt there.

You would think its less of a burden to make her your mission, have her tell her what to do and measure happiness from her point of view, but thats how things never work and never would. Being the MAN and being happy yourself takes 10% of the energy you require to be a functioning beta. The remaining 90% you will use to hunt, have fun, compete with other men and grow.

Because a MAN is what your body and energy scheme is designed to be, being a MAN is whats going to be easy and feel natural.

The burden you feel comes from all of the self imposed and externally imposed exigencies, facades, hurts, malfunctioning stuff, eg. neurosis, and you are trying to run a fake alpha persona on top of that, so of course THAT is exhausting.

The sensitive man without a backbone, nope, thats not what girls want.

Men were not made to cry, just like girls were not made to conquer danger and change the world.

You can find your self-pitty and cry all day and have some people hug you and tell you they understand, oh poor thing! you little thing you are so weak, so cute! everything is going to be alright!

But it wouldnt feel alright, would it.

14 Dec 2010, Posted by yohami in thoughts, 4 Comments.

You are not entitled to have an opinion

You are not entitled to have an opinion.

Opinions is all we are. Whenever the world interacts with you and wherever your energy goes and pours, thats your opinion talking.

We either have our opinions dance along with the big ones, or we mold our own. We either get our opinions from facts ( chocolate is darker than vanilla), preferences ( chocolate is better than vanilla) , experience (chocolate is dirty), or from others (wonka & the chocolate stories).

It doesnt matter, no opinion is ever right, which doesnt matter either, because opinions are abundant.

We see reality through a million broken mirrors, we “are” a million broken mirrors, and none has the whole picture. Every opinion is valuable, helpful, cheap, and wrong, and thats good.

So, this being “entitled” to an opinion is a pretense to make our opinion right, just because its ours – when most of the time its not even ours-. Being untitled to have an opinion isolates you from reality, makes you poor.

Every entitled opinion is unreasonable. Every entitled opinion refuses change, growth. Every entitled opinion is an unmovable stone, thus hides a secret, thus its a band aid for the hurt.

13 Dec 2010, Posted by yohami in game,thoughts, 1 Comment.

Instructions to get out of Pavlov´s machine

1 – Pay attention to yourself when you are under stress, and check for dissonant / involuntary responses.

2 – Decide what your new default response is going to be. Decide to ditch all the other responses.

3- Practice the stress situation until the new response is fixed. Go back to #1.

….

In other words, decide whats going to be your response to any given stimuli, and make it natural.

In other words, reframe everything and be nonreactive.

In other words, decide your own reality.

In other words, you are your actions. As long as your behaviour is based on reaction, the matrix has you.

06 Dec 2010, Posted by yohami in personal,thoughts, 2 Comments.

What is the magnetic field? I asked when I was a teenager

What is the magnetic field? I asked when I was a teenager.

Do thoughts have magnetic fields? can we measure the energy of a thought?

Since force fields affect every particle under their domain, are we altering everything around us just by being here, being what we are?

Since fields diminish with the distance but never disappear, can we say our projection reaches the infinite? are we all filling the whole universe with ourselves? is the whole universe being projected on us?

Can we say my whole body is under your influence, just because you are in the room? how can we measure this influence if we travel to different parts of the globe?

Is every particle in the universe aware of us? if I move my hand without touching the board, is the magnetic field of the board aware of it?

Is this measurable?

I can say these were hard questions for a teacher who is trying to explain electrons and magnetic forces and only cares about doing his job, and wants his students to memorize and pass the course. I was told I would find my answers later on, and I did, but not in the academy.

There cannot be answers when asking questions makes you look bad.