Just realized that the overpresent narcissism in politics matches with the codependent behavior of the masses.
The politicians are the narcissistic supply of the voters. An idealized super-human figure the voters acquire to make up for their own deficiencies, someone to fixate with, and this fixation is both the investment and the reward of such transaction. It’s not about what this figure actually does – it’s about what he/she is. Shame dynamics. That’s why nobody cares about actually solving the issues nor discussing what’s really going on, and why truth is so easily pushed aside. It’s all advocacy. It’s all drugs.
By the time anyone enters the discussion they have already picked a winner, which is just a flavor of that drug. You can argue against an idea, but you cannot argue against a flavor. Pathologies win.
I taught at a design college for a couple of years. When I started there was no material so I made up my own course. It was deep and demanding and I tested the students against real case scenarios and pushed their limits and put their skills to use. The ones who were interested in the subject learned fast, the ones who werent interested, it was too much for them.
My best students were guys who werent really paying attention in class, they were doing the stuff on their own, and called me only for help. They were ahead of the program.
I was ok with putting zero grades (F-) to the ones who didnt care about learning the stuff. My take: if you cant do this stuff, you aint gonna be making money with it on the real world, so why do you want a grade on it? go do something else.
Nonetheless I got the “best teacher award” from the students four times in a row.
So. A couple of women protested and wanted to pass my course, on the basis that they had been attending to class and had done most of the assignments. Were they able to do the stuff? no. But they wanted recognition for their efforts. I got pushed by the directive board so I gave an A+ to everyone. A month later I got the official program I was supposed to teach. It was totally newbie and useless stuff, and I was expected to follow it to the letter and dump my demanding course. So, naturally, I quit. Now everyone is passing the course.
Do they know how to do the stuff? no. They just made it more difficult for hiring departments to filter the ones who can do stuff from the ones who only have a grade.
And the guys who used to be my best students, the school is now just too slow and mind numbing for them. They are doing their own thing, making money with what they learned.
And those who protested and got a free A+, they are doing their own thing too. But one totally unrelated to the material they got a grade for.
Marx got everything wrong. Or, he got human nature wrong, which is everything.
His system requires a very organized, mechanical structure where everyone can perform the same and get the same kind of rewards, where you can split the total revenues of the system and allocate them in man/hours – which would require that all hours cost the same, thus, all labors are the same. It would work if the world was an ant farm, and we were all plugged to a Ford style factory and each of us were perfectly replaceable, and if happiness for humans was only about belonging to a family.
So what happens when the factory runs badly, and 20% of the workers are doing most of the goods and the rest are sinking it?
Get 100 professionals with the same grades out of school, are they all equally good? if a carpenter does an excellent job in half a day, and another does a terrible job and it takes a week plus ruins the material, do they deserve the same kind of compensation? if we have ten singers and two are amazingly good and the rest are utter crap, do we love them all equally? how do you motivate the lesser performers, how do you push for higher quality, how do you incentivize the talent? do we take the tools from the expert chef and share them with all the ones who dont care about cooking? do we take the nets from the farmer that worked all year, and give them to the farmers who didnt work at all?
He didnt understand that getting the same kind of results no matter what you do is the worst demotivator ever.
The only thing worse than marxism is capitalism, because it’s in power. In theory, different business exchange capitals and the capital is moving and healthy. In the practice, the capital stays where it is and everyone else provides services. Feudalism. It’s like being in a monopoly game where the the board has been already purchased and built with hotels, and you need to keep rolling the dice and paying, and getting loans and kissing asses just to get by, or get expelled otherwise.
And democracy. Build a group made of ten experts and one hundred amateurs, give them a problem to solve and let them all vote. Good luck.
I love this guy, raw, honest and in the moment. Plus he just killed a fat rapist jesus christ impersonator. Doing the “right thing” with no shame and no remorse.
Addicted to the adrenaline of doing dangerous stuff, pushing the limits, reaching levels of skill that are only available to some, becoming the best among the best of the best. The videos say “people” but it’s really “men”.
Men are awesome. Even if you dont hear this often enough.
If you have a segment of the population hanging themselves, do you fix the problem by making rope illegal?
If they are stabbing each other, do you fix the problem by hiding the knifes?
It’s not like your toddler found your guns and killed everyone. These killings dont happen by accident. They require intent, and planing, and desperation.
So address the intent, planning and desperation. What’s going on exactly? who’s doing the shootings? why? what do they have in common? how did they get into that situation? how many ticking bombs do we have? how can we find them, heal them, help them, or at least restrain them, before they go off?
They, the media, politicians, agenda people, are using the killings to fuel another debate, the gun control debate, which has its own merits but it’s unrelated to the killings, it’s not the cause of the killings, and wont stop the killings, simply because the tool is not responsible for the intent of using the tool. In other words, they dont seem to give a fuck about THIS problem.
Take out the guns and you’ll still see the killings, in the form of hand made bombs, fires, lethal gas, stabbings, and of course black market guns.
”When people feel entitled to something they dont generally feel like they have to earn it, and they generally dont go about trying to get it by tripping over themselves as being of service, or going to the edge of the world to impress someone, prove themselves to them, or even being noticed.
When you feel entitled to something you dont jump through hoops.
You expect those things to be handed to you for a little to no effort. Just for wanting them.”
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The cure for nice guys is to actually feel entitled. To stop jumping through hoops.
Because girls are wired to feel aroused by strong, powerful, confident men who know what they want and how to get it.
And girls are wired to feel repulsed to weak, whiny, bitter guys who don’t know what they want or can’t get what they want.
So when the girl is softly courted by a guy below her who’s willing to do everything she wants just for a chance to be with her, read, “nice”, and she makes him jump through hoops for diversion, or to feel less lonely, or to have her ego validated, or to extract favors, time, attention, comfort from him, with no intention to pay back with sex or romantic interest… when the “nice” guy gets angry and frustrated and bumps those not so nice feelings into her… then she feels bad.
But the wiring, the repulsion is still there.
Why can’t he be more… manly? Why is that doing shit for her and taking care of her needs is not enough? Why change the deal now? Why so angry, so bitter, so pushy, so demanding, so unattractive? Why would such a limp dick get access to such a pristine vagina? Who does he think he is? Why so accusatory?
She feels bad, so she turns the table and makes him the bad person.
The irony of the video is that she is an engineer. She’s an actual engineer. But somehow she’s not doing engineering. She’s not designing circuits, machines, software, creating structures or solving complex physics problems. No.
Haha. So. Beauty cheats on Nerd, Nerd exposes her.
Beauty gets angry at Nerd. What’s wrong with HIM?
She’s the one at fault, but she manages to avoid blame by putting the onus everywhere else. Maybe she can escape punishment if she acts like the one being injured.
It works. Nerd begs for forgiveness. Seriously. Maybe he needs kamasutra lessons too.
From this point on, any new spectator is just going to see a running Beauty being chased by an evil supplicating Nerd. Yeah, I can be your white knight too, baby. Just come closer. And go lower. Yes baby that feels good!
At least in Manga the good guys have superpowers. And a clean soul.
What always bothers me about the way the good vs evil fight is examined and portrayed in occident, is that it’s ALWAYS about the evil.
It’s always about the sin, the impure, the guilt, the suffering, the tragedy, the negative, the monster and it’s shade, the crime, the punishment, the fear, the threat, the injustice, the warnings, the judgement.
In tv and movies, you’ll get to see demons, from human to supernatural and all the twisted variations, each more interesting than the previous, in all their wide open range of fuckedupness. Sometimes you have a hero… with a troubled soul. Sometimes you get to see angels, pastors… who are also fighting their own demons – they dont incarnate “good”, they just have a job. And sometimes you get to see God… as just another boring regular dude with no fucking clue and no authority. They are not good because they are are good, but because they are defined against evil. Ah, but the evil has all the lights and effects, powers, and sexiness, and a self of it’s own.
Fuck you.
Then we have shows like Mad Men, House, Big Bang Theory, Rescue me and so many others, which are all about the shades of wicked, the shades of jaded, the broken, the dysfunction. And dont get me started on mainstream “news”.
There’s no culture of good.
The reason there’s no progress towards good is that no one is even looking in that direction.
This idea keeps making the rounds: “Betas created western civilization”.
Betas built it. Like ants or workers in a factory or soldiers. And their submissive, cooperative, conflict-avoiding sheeple-like nature was key to this.
They didn’t create it though. Not an inch of it. They built everything, everything under the supervision of a mix of Alphas and Wicked, who did engineer the whole thing, and extracted labor, blood and sweat from beta as needed.
Betas built it. And the system they built was engineered against them. To keep them there. Misinformed, lost and low.
When I see the beta praise for the system, I see the same as a slave in a Lousiana farm taking pride for having “created the farm” that keeps them all alive. If only they knew.
The “getting in contact with your feewwingss” thing is making me think a lot. Leap brings this up from the comments, old shit right?, but it opens new angles:
“Most men, myself included, have been trained to either ignore emotions or only relate to the ones that matter to women. I didn’t personally go all the way with that, though I’m unsure if that was a choice due to art or me drawing a line and telling society to fuck off.
Woe to the man who gets in touch with his passionate anger.”
Men who control their emotions are better suited to survive. A proper man, a strong and confident man, has to excel under stress, has to appear to make easy what is hard for everyone else. And then this man should have enough spare emotional energy to enjoy life and reap on the profits, and reproduce, and pass down his legacy. Cue: the grumpy man doesnt cut it.
But the shortcut to mastering your emotions is having none.
Does it work? yeah. Short term it does. The wave of bullshit is coming? turn it off. You have an efervescence of bad feelings and anxiety surging inside and cant turn it off? shake it out. Put it out there. Hit stuff. Man up. You don’t want to lose it under pressure. Don’t want to deal with it. Turn it off. Vampire Diaries style.
But this doesnt allow you to understand your own feelings / emotions, and, at the end, your emotions are the ones in charge, not your rational brain nor your skills. Your emotions sustain your belief and your identity and are the glue for your relational networks. So if you’re not aware and dont have emotional intelligence, if you cant command and understand and feel, and your emotional skills are limited to turn stuff off, block control repress and redirect, youre an EASY pray for emotional manipulators.
Guess whos manipulating you? Media. Society. Religions. Family. Friends. People. Relationships. Everyone. And your own emotions, that you dont control, are also manipulating other people. It’s a dark game played behind curtains and the most evident sign is what happens when you question it all.
It’s not the rational mind what’s blocking you. It’s not a logical puzzle. Question your life right now. The country, the city, the friends, your god, your pillars, and say: it’s all bullshit. Cancel your story. Take your most sacred belief and question it. Can you? or something inside shakes away from it?
What you cant handle you dont own. It owns you. You’re it’s bitch. And how exactly did you get into this position, where you respond to something and are unable to question, but you go with it. When exactly did you agree to be something else’s bitch? when did you surrender? do you remember? what if you hadnt?
Or. Who benefits from this? Who created this shit?
But I might be getting in too deep. Here’s where Emma would chime in:
“That.. sounds very profound, although I didn’t quite grasp it.”
Thanks baby, I get that a lot.
And. Women. You would think that since women are not taught to repress their emotions they are better off. But, no, since women are protected and treated like children and get a free pass and have other people to take on the consequences for them and get free respect and the natural entitlement that follows… no. They have access to a wider range of emotions, but one that is also out of touch with reality and stuck in the childhood, a meaningless, out of control limbo / mess of preferences and unsorted waves of sensorial, biological urges and minute bullshit. Sorry. Emotions for their own sake are not enlightment.
Intelligence is the ability to solve problems. The communication with reality and the know-how define it.
You have one gender with contact with reality but no emotional lexicon. And the other gender with emotional lexicon but no contact with reality.
I’m a newcomer to HUS and found this and other blogs that I’m relating to through HUS. I don’t have the perspective others may have since I’ve only been reading for a month or so. I don’t know what was going on there several years ago.
I have never heard a woman try to step inside a man’s shoes before, which is why I took HUS as fair. However, I’m baffled that she would disagree with this post about manipulation. This isn’t controversial stuff. Maybe I need to read it again.
A couple of mean girls were attacking my friend Olive at HUS and I wrote that for her, so she would reflect on her own behavior, how she was allowing other people to bully her.
Enter Susan, and she took my post as a personal attack to herself, which wasnt. So what would you do? apologize to Susan for the offense you didnt mean, talk through it and make sure everything is cool?
How about if this unrelated drama, this sudden and hurtful misunderstanding is the pattern, the normal modus operandi?
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If you’re a man wandering at HUS and you’re friendly, Susan will first receive you with cushions and drinks, treat you well, make sure you’re comfortable and enjoying the show, and pull you in closely, intimately, so you become part of her “team”.
See. Susan either has allies or foes, it’s a Black or White world, where the shades of gray are measured according to how much she can use you as an ally, and where she plays the unquestionable moral compass of White. Emphasis on “unquestionable”.
So all it will take is for you to express a dissenting opinion, or a criticism, and your comfortable friendship and trust you were building and the drink that you’re holding on your hand, will explode, beautifully, because you stepped on a land mine that you didnt know was there, and now you’re labeled a despicable “foe” and the cops are coming for your ass and someone is screaming help! help! and whose is all that blood? and you’re too confused right now to figure out what just happened so you start crying and asking for forgiveness, and apologizing for every sin you might have or not committed, that you meant no harm, that you’re one of the good guys… that where the fuck is your drink?
And that second, the second you profusely apologize, everything will be ok. Paradise and agreeableness and trust will come back. Even when you’re not sure about what the fuck just went on.
This is called, training.
And it will happen again. With no warning the drinks will explode, the lights will go off, the rage will go on, she´ll push you out, then pull you in, then out, while you keep working through it and trying to go back to the good and swearing wtf why is this so confusing? who’s there? who’s grabbing my ass?
You´ll be walking on eggshells. And eventually break.
Or you´ll refuse to.
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If you refuse to, you´ll stand there, repeating firmly what you think is right and reasoning through it, and watch how Susan ignores every argument, while nitpicking words and changing the subject, escalating on the issue, making personal comments that might make you react. She´ll increase the dosis.
If you do react, you lose your cool and say something stupid, then all you have to do is to profusely apologize and reassure her you’re one of her allies, and pay whatever duties she has for you. I mean, how dare you man. You made a woman uncomfortable. Pay your fucking fine and do as you’re told, you fucking loser.
But let’s say you dont react. You keep your ground firmly, and as cool as you can, no matter which dosis she gives you. She’ll call for the support of every ally she has and make a big bitch fest around you, painting a big picture of you and looking under your clothes which buttons she can press and press them all in a big huge hungry orgy of dramatic misunderstandings and broken feelings, which she will keep escalating until something breaks. Hopefully you. You bitch! how you dare making her work so hard.
When you eventually see the futility of resisting, you’ll make a mark on the ground and write “land mine here, and here, and here, and dont walk through there, dont mention this… avoid, avoid, avoid, please, please, please her” After a while, there will be a lot of stuff that you just dont talk about, and you’ll know what’s proper to say and what not. You still might receive a drama dosis from time to time, just to make sure you’re under control.
Or you might decide to abandon HUS, or to become one of HUS and help give newcomers the same treatment.
Or you´ll take the whole thing badly and spit it out. In which case you’ll get banned. You were always a foe, didnt ya know? oh you despicable malicious pig.
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And when I was walking out I saw something funny.
All those mines and sensitive subjects were, most of the time, fights Susan initiated herself, offenses she took on herself when the other parties meant no offense, or offenses she did on others but then acted like an abused victim when the other party responded angrily, or misunderstandings, mistakes on her part that she wouldnt take responsibility of, etc.
HUS is like an open party with lights and music and candy and interesting posters and hype, where everyone discussing sensible stuff and dancing, and with Susan, smoothly, dropping mines and picking fights and then playing the good samaritan who’s been wronged.
And all those mechanics…. I swear I have seen them somewhere else. Like. Everywhere. I see sick people. Let’s make a movie where Bruce Willis was sick all along.
So what did I do, fueled by my rescuer complex? I called her openly on her bizarre behavior and asked her to self reflect and change. Boom. Im so clever.
You bet that didnt turn out well.
From there on my whole presence was making landmines blow off. That post for Olive for example, Susan took it as a “character assassination” directed to her and wanted me go to in yet another endless me-you-drama-ohnoyoudidnt party.
The games we play. Or stop playing.
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So. Are you new to HUS? pay attention. Dont waste your time explaining that you didnt mean and that you didnt say or rectifying ancient misconceptions and mistakes that go on and on and on and forever on that site, dont waste your time rectifying the “truth” there.
HUS is not a research-the-truth-and-be-honest forum. HUS is there to support the opinion and mood states and ego involvements of Susan, and where disagreeing, or the appearance of disagreeing, means betrayal, which is a political crime punishable by shame and rage, and she’ll make sure those happen, that your boundaries get tested and your alliances reassured, and that you pay your fines, and it will require passing through several stages of love / hate, walking on eggshells, breakups make ups and endless drama, as long as she considers you a valuable asset, until you’re hers, or you’re out.
I dont know if it’s a flavor or BPD/N, but whatever it is, her charisma works. I think she gets 20k-50K visitors a month. That’s a lot of people wanting to play.
But, if you feel like playing, at least know what you’re playing.
“Previous research has shown in the week near ovulation women become attracted to sexy, rebellious and handsome men like George Clooney or James Bond [...] Under the hormonal influence of ovulation, women delude themselves into thinking that the sexy bad boys will become devoted partners and better dads,” Durante said. “When looking at the sexy cad through ovulation goggles, Mr. Wrong looked exactly like Mr. Right.”
No. Idiot. You’re rationalizing bad boy attraction, so you can keep the comfortable lie that nice guys trigger any attraction at all, that women are “thinking long term” when it comes to attraction, and that all women want is to find a good husband… but they pick bad boys who are unsuitable for marriage, every time their body wants to procreate, by mistake!
That, and that whenever women do something that is morally wrong, it’s because somehow they have been tricked into it, and therefore they are except of responsibility – and the responsibility goes to the nearest man we can dump the blame on.
On this episode, the poor girls have been tricked, abused and manipulated by their own hormones! Bad, bad hormonal cycle! Leave women alone! These poor girls without any agency nor intelligence nor accountability!
How dare you? You evil, evil biology! Leave women alone! I warn you!
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“oh hi… I know I only met you a few hours ago and Im already sucking your cock… but it’s ONLY because… I thought you were going to marry me? oh no? my body has fooled me yet again! … I was only horny and lonely and went to some party and got drunk and flirted with some guys, bounced out boring guys and ended with you… all confident and hot and dominant and you only wanted to FUCK me ohh yes yes fuck me good good…. Im so naive!! I totally thought I was fucking with a nicer guy!!”
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On a similar note, I dont think we’re going to see a scientific study rationalizing that when a man gets a hard on in presence of a hot girl, he’s really thinking long term and picturing her as a nurturing caring mom, and that men’s drives are in sync with morality and virtue, and that any “mistake” is just the result of some evil external force that… produces erections and makes us do stupid shit.
We’re not going to see it because men are expected to be pigs.
It’s the fact that women are pigs, too, what needs to be hidden and rationalized away in this culture.
Great and succinct post from Roosh, to which I would add:
Everyone is wanting you to fail, except of the people who benefit from you winning. Those people NEED you to win.
Not that they necessarily share your goals, but everyone needs an icon. Something that represents something else they are invested in. In some cases that benefit is material, say, like in politics or religion. Or anything else involving money.
And not that they can give you advice either. If they do it’s probably going to be shitty advice. Advice should be taken, only, from people who A) have achieved what you want to achieve and B) want you to succeed.
A roadmap to success is to build a group of people who need you to win. A group of people who benefit from you making it. Be it because they believe, or because their share of the pie comes from yours.
If it’s not your dad nor your sisters, family and friends, well too bad. Fuck it. Leave and get a new circle. Form a new tribe.
My name is Yohami.
Im a Singer/Songwriter.
Im on my way to have fun. 
