07 Apr 2013, Posted by yohami in game, personal, 24 Comments

Girls with boyfriends

Yeah dude, fuck my girlfriend, I dont mind.

I am an Omega and Im five years old. We are playing the lion and other animals in kindergarden. She says she wants to marry mr zebra. And that I am never going to be her boyfriend.

Six. Blonde cute princess. I make a paper collar, a ring and some drawings for her. Wrap them into a letter, asking if she wants to be my girlfriend. Later I see her wearing the collar, but never get a response.

Seven. I am with this brunette tomboy girl and we are best friends. I also want to jump on top of her, but not sure what for exactly. The kids chant and tease that Im her boyfriend. I deny it.

Eight. I fall in love with a cartoon character. “The girl of the flowers”. She had magical powers. She has a boyfriend, he saves her from time to time.

Nine. I keep Nati’s heart shaped picture in my pocket for a year. When I return to town and see her again she wants to kiss and stuff. I want to play with car toys instead.

Ten. Best friend’s with Dariela and also a crush on her. She goes out in the afternoon to make out with a tiny neighbor boy she doesnt like, but she wants to try the kissing stuff.

Ten. Dariela’s twin younger sisters flirt with me and say that I should want to rape them. I take offense.

Ten. I realize that all I want from a woman is between the neck and the legs. Decide that the greek sculptures are fine as they are.

Eleven. I send letters to every one in my old neighborhood. Pretty girl Daniela confuses it for a gest of interest and wants to have me.

Twelve. Learn to masturbate looking at Kiara’s posters, while locked in a closet. Im on fifth grade. Some girls and boys are already fucking, most of the boys are fucking the same girl, in group, when they gather to “study”.

Fifteen. I fall in love with “Estela” from a “High Expectations” animated series. I realize that I can put all my feelings in a “box” and stop feeling them. But that this sometimes explodes later. I realize I can replace one girl with the next and keep the emotions the same.

Fifteen. Thin spanish Lorena starts flirty letters, says she’s in love, I respond and we become boyfriend and girlfriend on paper. We never kiss. I suspect the letters are really from her sister.

Fifteen. Curly red haired Gloria sends me a letter, saying that I could be a good boyfriend for her. Later she asks if I have a condom.

Fifteen. Ada comes in a dream and she becomes my twilight zone girlfriend. I write letters to the real world Ada and go visit. The real Ada is kind of flattered but confused as to where my infatuation comes from. Also she’s back from a trip to some mountain and has the libs inflated because she was kissing someone.

Sixteen. I write a poetry book for Elisa. She says thanks but rejects it. She becomes boyfriends with a good looking gringo guy she cannot talk with because he doesnt speak spanish. Then a different girl falls in love with me for the book I wrote for Elisa. Then Elisa dumps the gringo and wants me too, sort of, but she is really after one of my friends.

Nineteen. My first kiss. She’s the bassist of my first band. Im in love with her so are my three best friends. Though, she’s just trying to piss off her aunt when she kisses me. She shuffles between all of us and then chases a badder boy who doesnt want her and is into another girl who has a boyfriend. Then she starts fucking the owner of a record store / bar who has a girlfriend. Then she tries cocaine.

Twenty. Lose my virginity to Sandra. She’s 16. We start a short monogamy. On a two weeks travel that I do back to little town, she fucks another guy and his girlfriend, and starts a beta orbiter relationship with one of my musician friends. I dump her. She goes on to have many boyfriends but keeps saying that she wants me to want her. Gets married, cheats on the hubby.

Twenty. Dani, 17, we write poetry and make out. She also has this tall male orbiter with whom she goes to motel rooms “to smoke weed”. We do on and off. She gets pregnant of another dude and marries. Then divorces and takes the kid to another country.

Twenty. Liliana, 19. She likes me when Im dominant instead of shy. She has a rich boyfriend she fucks every day, then she calls me / finds ways for us to be alone.

Twenty. I pick up a fat gothic girl at a party, spend the night masturbating each other. She gets angry that I dont want to go further and calls me shitty names in a public plaza where Im doing some meditation. Becomes girlfriend of one of my friends, then dumps him. Gets married to another dude, then divorces.

Twenty one. Fabiola. She’s 14. I totally surrender to my love for her. We kiss twice. We make promises of eternal love and soul matching. She lives in another city, and when Im back home she falls for another kid who takes his tshirt off and make out at a bonfire while playing the bottle. They hit it off and become boyfriends. Then she dumps him and grabs another one, then dumps him and grabs another one etc. Makes clear I should still be available if / when she needs me. Im special for her, just not that kind of special.

Twenty one, two, three. Celibacy. I discover Castaneda and Alchemy. I try to become a saint, plus Im still in love. I do drugs, I create and burn companies, try to make rich, dream about having a girlfriend, owning my own computer, and a place where I can sleep.

Twenty four. Im moving towards the Beta/White Knight frame and leaving Omega back. Cristina. She’s 17 and a virgin. She’s a rich girl and Im almost homeless. I become her boyfriend and we date for 8 months with no sex. Then she goes out on a weekend camping trip and loses her virginity to some boyscout. Says she needs time but that we should keep in touch and be friends. Never see each other again.

Twenty four. Short attempts to go Bad Boy. Maria, guitar player of some punk band. Become her boyfriend fuck and dump in less than two weeks.

Twenty four. Marina has been in love with me for years. She has a boyfriend, though they are in a hiatus. She’s on my bed after kissing heavily, says she cannot have sex with me because she’s in a relationship, but says we could have sex if I rape her. I pass on the offer. Next day she thanks me for my White Knight morals, then gets off my radar.

Twenty four. Drunk drugged girl is some dude’s girlfriend. She follows me home screaming my name and saying she’s going to have herself killed on the street unless I let her in and fuck her. So I do it. Her boyfriend later finds out and apologizes for her behavior.

Twenty five. Girl student rapes me in a bathroom, where Im puking after having had too many tequilas, while her boyfriend is waiting at the table.

Twenty five. Clara. She’s on my couch, with the legs open and bright eyes, waiting for me to make a move, but I dont make any. She wants a boyfriend and I dont want to mislead her. I hook her up, sort of, with a friend. They marry and then divorce, the dude goes on a punk rock band and tours latin america, while she settles in miami and sends me invitations with sexual remarks.

Twenty five. Carolina, she’s a student. I crush on her and we fuck. She has a long distance boyfriend, which whom she breaks to be with me fulltime. A year later she’s living in USA and repeating the script, having me as a long distance boyfriend while fucking another dude. Then marries that other dude.

Twenty eight. I have matured into a full Beta by now. Cynthia. I fly to Argentina to be with her. She makes me work hard, even moreso after becoming her boyfriend. She finds new dudes to orbit her, a writer, a policeman, a video director. I try to make the relationship and the craziness work to the point of creating a company where both of us can work in and she can create stuff. But we fight a lot and I dump her, then end the business relationship, where I was also playing “Beta of The Month” for my employees. She chases me for a while but then steals my money, becomes a lesbian, and disappears in Europe.

Twenty nine. Barbie. Become her boyfriend for three months. We go from sexual napalm to conversational napalm since she spends all day talking / stressing about unimportant stuff. Dump her over email. She spends seven years widowing our relationship.

Twenty nine. Discover David De Angelo on OKCupid and add “Cocky n Funny” to my Beta thing. Ale. Nice girl. Weekend’s boyfriends for about a year. She doesnt know who Freud/Einstein/Edison/Marx are nor wants to find out. I get bored.

Thirty. Angie. She had been the girlfriend of a friend of mine many years before. We reconnect and connect emotionally, online. One day she is saying she wants my babies, the next day she is flying to Dubai with an ex boyfriend and breaking contact.

Thirty one. Girl is brilliant, beautiful and creative and owns a pet dragon, but also cuts herself and has a sadist angle. I try to save her, want to marry her, she makes me chase her for a while and then reveals she doesnt want me in that way. I cut contact. She keeps saying hi and sending emoticons.

Thirty one. I discover Game and start moving into Alpha/Bad Boy frame. Enter a series of short to instant relationships. Fuck many girls. Half of them with boyfriends. Some of them wear my clothes the morning after and go to skype with the boyfriend, or text “I love you” or talk to them on the phone while I am fucking them.

Thirty three. Flor. Belgian girl playing chess. We meet at a party, take her home and fuck. Two days later I follow her to a camping in Rosario and we fuck all night in the river. She leaves to Chile, spends a few months there, gets a boyfriend, does drugs, comes back to Argentina for a few days, ignores me, then goes back to Belgium saying that she loves me.

Thirty four. Kissing some paraguay girl at a club. Hands down her clitoris. Make out. Drinks dance and stuff. Then “I have a boyfriend”. Then having sex or not. This x10.

Thirty four. Im full on Alpha frame. Nonstrings harem thing. Many girls, soft relationships, fucking several girls at once or in rotation. Some of them have fulltime boyfriends. Some of them want me to be theirs. I feel hollow and crave for real human connections.

Thirty five. Girls nights. Hearing girls talk about their boyfriends and relationships, evenly unhappy, all of them burning in (mostly) repressed desire to fuck other dudes, some of them doing it, some of them planning how to dump the current boyfriend, even though they are moving in with them or purchasing shared cars / properties. How to dump him but keep the car? sort of thing.

Thirty five. She’s a pet trainer and full of joy. She has a remote boyfriend whom she cuts off to be with me, and I cut off my harem to be with her, but she goes back to exboyfriend for two months and fucks him again. I forgive her and take her back, then she goes to diner and stuff with her other exes nonstop. I dump her because Im sure she’s cheating, plus she’s been ramping up on emotional games. She finds a new boyfriend quickly enough and moves in him with. A year later the new boyfriend commits suicide.

Thirty five. I discover “The rawness”. BPD, Narcissim, Codependency etc. I get more insight on what’s going on with the boyfriend / girlfriend thing. My own reflection isnt pretty.

Thirty six. Eve. Meet her at a bar, she talks nonstop about her brazilian ex boyfriend who cheated on her 50 times and broke her heart. We have sex and I take care of her tears for a few days. Then she turns the teary drama on myself.

Thirty six. Helen, fat older tourist-guide girl, comes to a party, hides the whiskey, we fuck, have sushi, then I get bored of hearing her talk about her failed relationships and political slogans. We stop talking, she blocks me on facebook.

Thirty six. Caramel, colombian / NYC cute girl. Follows me around till we have a proper bar date and fuck. Keeps giving hints she wants me to go for the boyfriend thing, even though she creates drama ploys in which she wants me to chase her around the city with her having a new guy clinging to her during the whole time, but dumping him to be with me by the end of the night.

Thirty six. Sam. She has a boyfriend she’s planning to break up with. Also needs two hours of foreplay before fucking, and bites hard.

Thirty six. Harem with soft strings. Multiple girl-friends with benefits who know about each other. Shortly all of them want the boyfriend/gilrfriend thing, even though some of them actually have boyfriends or are trying to get back with an ex, or are not really over an ex, or are more interested on chasing some new dude or licking each other’s parts when Im not around.

Thirty six. She’s 23. She has a boyfriend she’s cheating on with me, she’s also fucking other dudes, including my best friend, and Im with a lot of other girls too… but she wants me to be her boyfriend. I like her and I comply, then she goes on a travel for 2 months and parties hard. Next day when she comes back I find her on a bed kissing another girl and grabbing some ex lover by the groin. I dump her, but she “doesnt know what she did wrong”.

Thirty seven. Single and with no intention to go back to the pool for the time being. Need my time and focus to make the music. No time to waste on diversions.

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So tell me. What is all the boyfriend and relationships fuzz about? What kind of solace do people get from the boyfriend thing, why do girls lust for having a boyfriend? they lust for the stability and emotional comfort of a man who will commit to them, even if it’s for a short while, but as soon as they get this comfort it gets overriden by something else. The boyfriend role – one that changes at any time at any moment according to the times and flavors…. what’s in it? what does it really mean.

Seems like there are two kinds of available women, the single ones and the “in a relationship” ones, with the single ones more craving for stability, and the “in a relationship” ones more craving and more wild for random cock. I have had better luck with girls with boyfriends than when I’ve been in the boyfriend role myself. Less work and more fun. And any trace of stability or nurturing companionship is taken away as soon as the girl is presented with a better option, even if that option is merely contextual and void of anything deeper, and not boyfriend material – or probably just because of that -. When Im single and hitting on girls Im usually that better option. When Im in a relationship and taken off the pool, I have to fight and combat and keep and police all the stranger cock she seems so eager of.

Not worth the time. Not for me.

09 Mar 2013, Posted by yohami in game, inner game, thoughts, 4 Comments

I want you to turn my life up down – plus that’s some talented prostitute

I want you to turn my life up down – plus that’s some talented prostitute

Ricky Raw has a new post about manic pixie girls, and you also need his stuff on prisoner’s dilemma and collaborators vs competitors for context.

And my take:

The narcissist is the narcissistic supply of the codependent – the other only exists as a drug that fuels your own self acceptance.

The codependent attempts to “pay” for the drug and might even be fair in the trade, might be attempting collaborative game, not without throwing tamtrums / ultimatums of their own from time to time.

The narcissist instead “lures” offers superficial goods, caters to the codependent’s weaknesses and prey and extracts as many resources as they can before discarding them, playing competitive game since the start, and every move is calculated to win over the codependent, while every move of the codependent is calculated to control, tame and keep the narcissist or, “work things out”.

The narcissist finds someone to adore them and the codependent finds something to adore and both fill their self acceptance until the transaction gets exhausted. In the exchange, the goods go to the narcissist and the craps to the codependent. If the codependent has a martir / victim complex and the narcissist has a sadist angle, this can go on for quite a while.

The codependent ends up asking how was it possible that all the goods where there and they weren’t able to take them, and regretting all they paid for nothing. The narcissist ends up annoyed at the codependent’s attempt at a “fair exchange”, but with a feeling of superiority over the codependent’s weakness and blindness.

After many rounds, codependents might understand the competitive games and start playing them themselves – switch to narcissim.

07 Feb 2013, Posted by yohami in game, politics, video of the day, 3 Comments

Video Of The Day: Kay, A Woman Was In Danger!

I love this guy, raw, honest and in the moment. Plus he just killed a fat rapist jesus christ impersonator. Doing the “right thing” with no shame and no remorse.

Way to go.

04 Feb 2013, Posted by yohami in conversations, game, 9 Comments

Apologize

The stereotype she talks about is actually an apex fallacy: high status men, or in the eyes of women, “real men” apologize less, or dont apologize at all, in contrast to the majority of men who apologize all the time, specially to women.

The rest of the video is bogus because it’s based on “self reported”, or in other words, biased data.

Anyway, Carlotta had this question at Vox’s post about dominance and submission.

“Could this be applied to male/female relationships?
For instance, someone married to a Sigma, Alpha or high Beta gets in a fight with them. He will not apologize, for nothing. Or, she is wrong and he simply will not give in until she apologizes, publically, repeatedly.

I can tell you, I have seen gammas’ fight with their wives and everyone is disgusted. You kind of get the feeling that even the wife wishes he would stand the heck up to her.”

Alpha can apologize if he’s wrong. But wont apologize as a way to avoid conflict or release the tension.

Beta’s strategy is to apologize always even if he doesn’t know what’s going on. He can’t handle pressure or tension, so he gives in first. Actually “giving in” is what he brings to the table.

Alpha accepts apologies when it’s due, and accepts submission always. The offending party doesn’t need to know what they did wrong as long as they concede the lead and get out of the way.

In more detail:

“Could this be applied to male/female relationships? For instance, someone married to a Sigma, Alpha or high Beta gets in a fight with them. He will not apologize, for nothing.”

What usually happens is that the woman is trying to dominate the husband, and wants him to apologize as a way to get him to concede power. It’s not that the Alpha wont apologize for nothing, it’s that he won’t apologize as long as he thinks he did nothing wrong, and / or as long apologizing means submission.

And then you have narcissists, of both genders and all over the spectrum, who truly think they did nothing wrong and will only apologize when they are already on their knees and it’s too late, and not because they think they did anything wrong but because they see that apologizing is the only way to keep their narcissist supply, eg, salvage the relationship so they can keep on the abuse… but that’s a separate subject.

“Or, she is wrong and he simply will not give in until she apologizes, publically, repeatedly.”

This sounds more like humiliation. See. A real alpha… not just a dude who’s seating on the throne but doesn’t incarnate the archetype… a “real” alpha is above you but is leading the way and provisioning so you can follow his same steps – leading by example. Will kick your ass and call you out when you do wrong. And demand submissiveness when you attempt to put him down. But it’s not about humiliation. It’s not about hurting you. It’s the same mold as when you have kids and they misbehave. You don’t correct them and set strict rules and call them out because you want to destroy them, but because it’s your responsibility to do so.

14 Jan 2013, Posted by yohami in game, 8 Comments

If you send vague texts, you not only avoid rejection, but also avoid putting the girl on the spot.

In response to http://www.afterpsychotherapy.com/shame-and-indifference/

If you send vague texts, you not only avoid rejection, but also avoid putting the girl on the spot.

Girls like to avoid any responsibility and accountability when it comes to hooking up and courtship. Girls also prefer indirect or contextualized communication, or, “hints” instead of direct overt communication. Plus girls prefer when the magic “just happens” (which usually means someone else is doing the work to make them happen, but that’s a different subject). And girls want to be swept off their feet, and girls want dominant men and dont want to be asked for approval or instructions – or in other words a man who can give them what they want, without having to ask what is it. But whatever the case, they dont want to be put on the spot. Whatever happens, they dont want to be held responsible. They dont want to pay for it.

So if you call her and say “hey I met you last night I like you let’s go on a date” she has to respond yes or no immediately. She’s put on the spot.

If you text with imprecise invitations “sup” “hey [Im gonna] [watch a movie] [wanna come][with friends]?” there’s no spot, she has no accountability.

If you invite her to “hang around” which at the end of the night involves drinks, dance, and sex, for her all just happened in the spark of the moment. She didnt need to think of it, plan for it. She could have changed her mind in the middle of the “date”, there’s an ample ground for improvisation and being in the moment, because the situation is open ended. Its the realm of being in the now. Short, immediate satisfaction realm.

But if you tell her “hey we met last night, I like you let’s go on a date the two of us, grab a few drinks and then go back to your place and fuck”, she’s probably going to say no.

Covert, vague courtship works better than direct overt courtship.

Usually women excel at covert, vague communication while men suck at it.

If men are switching to vagueness and covert is because it increases their chances with women. Still, it’s not the preferred way of communication: most of us would rather just state, “hey, you and me, now”, and be done.

While girls thrive in the emotional uncertainty, as long as things just happen and they dont have to make hard choices.

29 Nov 2012, Posted by yohami in game, politics, 16 Comments

Video Of The Day: When girls hate nice guys is because they offer a reflection. And the girl in the reflection isn’t nice.

From the video, emphasis mine:

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 ”When people feel entitled to something they dont generally feel like they have to earn it, and they generally dont go about trying to get it by tripping over themselves as being of service, or going to the edge of the world to impress someone, prove themselves to them, or even being noticed.

When you feel entitled to something you dont jump through hoops.

You expect those things to be handed to you for a little to no effort. Just for wanting them.”

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The cure for nice guys is to actually feel entitled. To stop jumping through hoops.

http://yohami.com/blog/2011/11/23/i-tell-people-what-to-do/

Because girls are wired to feel aroused by strong, powerful, confident men who know what they want and how to get it.

And girls are wired to feel repulsed to weak, whiny, bitter guys who don’t know what they want or can’t get what they want.

So when the girl is softly courted by a guy below her who’s willing to do everything she wants just for a chance to be with her, read, “nice”, and she makes him jump through hoops for diversion, or to feel less lonely, or to have her ego validated, or to extract favors, time, attention, comfort from him, with no intention to pay back with sex or romantic interest… when the “nice” guy gets angry and frustrated and bumps those not so nice feelings into her… then she feels bad.

But the wiring, the repulsion is still there.

Why can’t he be more… manly? Why is that doing shit for her and taking care of her needs is not enough? Why change the deal now? Why so angry, so bitter, so pushy, so demanding, so unattractive? Why would such a limp dick get access to such a pristine vagina? Who does he think he is? Why so accusatory?

She feels bad, so she turns the table and makes him the bad person.

Hi, defense mechanisms.

http://rationalmale.wordpress.com/2012/11/29/friends-like-these/

http://yohami.com/blog/2012/06/07/deti-wisdom-never-never-be-friends-with-any-woman-who-lets-just-be-friends-you/

http://yohami.com/blog/2012/07/20/so-why-bother-with-a-long-term-relationship/

When girls hate nice guys is because they offer a reflection. And the girl in the reflection isn’t nice.

21 Aug 2012, Posted by yohami in game, 6 Comments

Video Of The Day: I Want To Fuck With You But I Dont Want You To Get Too Attached

Yup.

21 Aug 2012, Posted by yohami in game, personal, 3 Comments

My kitchen is a freaking bar

Throwing some crazy-drinks party at home… most of which happened at the kitchen. Im going to turn my meetings into a biz and run a real bar at some point.

27 Jul 2012, Posted by yohami in game, politics, 8 Comments

Video of the day: The Beauty, the Nerd and the Pink

Check today’s Dalrock & Rollo Tomassi posts for proper context for this video.

Haha. So. Beauty cheats on Nerd, Nerd exposes her.

Beauty gets angry at Nerd. What’s wrong with HIM?

She’s the one at fault, but she manages to avoid blame by putting the onus everywhere else.  Maybe she can escape punishment if she acts like the one being injured.

It works. Nerd begs for forgiveness. Seriously. Maybe he needs kamasutra lessons too.

From this point on, any new spectator is just going to see a running Beauty being chased by an evil supplicating Nerd. Yeah, I can be your white knight too, baby. Just come closer. And go lower. Yes baby that feels good!

But.

Why is the other dude wearing a pink bandana?

Why on earth, why?

20 Jul 2012, Posted by yohami in conversations, game, 26 Comments

So why bother with a long term relationship?

In response to M3′s post, worth a read.

Let’s try to be succint. hah. Impossible.

SEX MARKET PLACE

The SMP and the hormones and stuff arent there so you can have true love. They are there to help you breed and to maximize your offspring’s survival.

You dont get a boner when you see a hot girl because you want true love. You dont want to compete and prove and you dont get all the angst and all the drive that lets you do wonderful, and often stupid stupid things for “girls” so you can have true love.

At the same time, status is for girls what hotness is for guys. Or, hotness, from the girl’s point of view, it’s a compendium of many things, where physical appereance is just one important trait among many other important traits.

Just to touch the tip of it: masculinity has a surplus of resources (sperm), or it should, and femininity has limited resources (ovules), or it should. And this sets the basis for a holla lot of behavioral traits. Plus the femininity has to feed the baby and the masculinity should stay around to make war with external aggressors and protect her and the baby. Oh. Maybe that feeling, the whole thing, you can call love.

But we’re really talking instinct.

SCREENING

When you see a girl you like you get that boner or you dont. There’s no talking you into it. Or there shouldnt. But, let’s say you’re looking at a girl that doesnt particularly arouse you, until you see her naked, then wow! now we’re talking. But then she turns around and you see her ass and is ugly and has some weird shit on it, and your boner goes off. But then she comes closer with that look in her eyes etc? and the boner comes again. Or she goes away for a couple of years and comes back way prettier. Or, she was a very very pretty girl, and you see her years after and she’s jaded and gray, and uglier, and you feel pity instead of getting a boner. Sad right?

So what’s love have to do with it? nothing.

Girls are looking for Mr. Right. This is “the man” whos the best prospect, and who has chances of sticking around. However, girls usually have other people who can stick around for them, friends family the state etc. And thanks to feminism they dont need a man to stick around – they can make their own money and get the feed somewhere else. So mr. Right is, basically, the hottest, higher value, more fit man they can snatch RIGHT NOW.

Hypergamy for short term. Hypergamy without the sticking around part.

What’s love have to do with it? nothing.

Hormones, attraction, selection, screening, all the stuff that was there to increase your survival, all the pain and pleasure and the chemical cocktail.

It’s all about the sex. It is a highly emotional issue for girls. It’s all passional and breath taking, and feelings of “love” are in it, too. But it’s all about the sex. It’s about the survival. It’s your genes, talking the talk.

Men screen for the hottest girl, girls screen for the more fit man. And it’s all about the sex.

THE LADDER

We’re basically a tournament species. We built a huge society that needs other arrangements… but at our core we’re still tournament. The guys compete. The girls cheer and build a net of chit chat and gossip so they can assess a general agreement, a safe-bet agreement, of who’s hot and who’s a creep. The girls cheer like crazy and faint for the stars. The guys lock down practicing and making money and trying to climb. The ones who succeed get big rewards. The winners are more attractive. The losers, nobody wants them. Some guys are born at the top and already attractive – and girls do faint for them, think of prince Harry, think of… you know. Some guys are born at the bottom and climb, and they also get faints and stuff as long as they werent too Omega or were able to climb enough to prove they belonged up there all the way.

We’re organized in a way where the winners are the most attractive. And, girls, or, the feminine, is built to screen for the traits the winners have. The result is that the vast majority of girls are screening for the top guys, and that’s it.

Got it? stop whining about hypergamy. For every girl who only feels attracted to the top guys and is rejecting beta nice guys… there’s a guy whos practicing and improving himself and trying to climb, so he becomes mr Right. We have hypergamy for the same reason we have the male sex drive and it’s desire to fight compete and climb. You wouldnt want this in any other way. Or I wouldnt.

So. Girls are screening for the guys at the top, and, the guys at the top have options, and, have more social value than the girls.

Say whatever you want about girls and stars and stuff. You know the maximum value a girl can have in the ladder, in the SMP, is being wanted. Girls value is being wanted, being spent into. By whom?

Top guy’s value is what they built. Not themselves, but their legacy, what they do, the value they represent. Then they sit at the top of their own mountain. The dude is the mountain.

Top girl’s value is being wanted and purchased by the top guys. Voilah. And top top guys can purchase more than one top girl.

Am I hurting your sensibilities again? Masculinity is about surplus, having it, producing it, and spending it. Look at Dicaprio. Remember when you felt more admiration for Brad Pitt before he decided to put all of his seeds in the same sack.

Femininity is about controlling and being wise with your limited resources, maximizing it’s value, attracting the best of the best seed. That’s why you get disgusted when you see a hot, hot girl, all drunk and messing around with a “loser”. You know she’s worth “more”.

So what’s love have to do with this? nothing.

TRUE LOVE?

When people talk about true love, the love in movies etc… they are usually talking about this mystical team and soul matey thing where people complement each other and bond for life and do all kind of marvellous things together. Eh. For two hours. Maybe it’ll get boring so let’s label it “and happy ever after… ” not much to tell?

There’s an angle, the spiritual one, which transcends the form, the shape of things and goes to the bone.

Unconditional love.

Unconditional love can be all ways of sick (love you and accept you even if you become an abusive drug addict kind of love), but, true love in its most abstract form is when this feeling of love just goes and surrenders and fills the other person without an ego on it, without a form, without a business. True love in it’s spiritual way is like giving all of your money to somebody, then doing it again, then doing it again.

Yes. So unconditional love can be stupid. Surrendering to true love and loving to its fullest, can be stupid. That’s why screening is so important. And if you plan on loving someone forever… screening is all. You have to screen for someone who’s not just going to take all of your gifts and leave you in the dumpster.

And screening isnt love. Screening is well, screening.

But, back to love.

TRUE LOVE AS SALVATION

What people really talk about when this “true love” comes in play, is acceptance. Is ego validation.

See. Only beta and nice guys talk about this shit. There’s a reason all the bullshit about true love and salvation has been written by male losers. Girls are not interested in true love. You dont see them chasing true love. But you see them chasing and finding and keeping mr Right. The “love” is just what they feel while they are chasing the WHOM.

True love is sold as finding the ONE. But, for women, this means screening one among MANY. It’s picking the best from the best among a surplus. Its ONE or… it’s gonna be some one else.

For men, it’s the opposite, it’s salvation, its ONE or nothing. ONE or disappearing.

… you get what Im getting at?

This is the killer:

Betas and nice guys and under are after true love – as a thing – because they dont have any other option.

Betas and nice guys need love, because true love is their only chance at survival if at all.

True love is the only REASON someone would want to be with them.

True love – finding a soul mate, is the only way they could attract a hot girl and pass their genes.

True love, because they are unattractive, but maybe there’s ONE girl that will see them.

Yes, that’s how scarce it is.

True love is, simply, salvation from the SMP.

True love, for a beta nice guy, is finding someone who loves them at expenses of their value in the SMP.

True love means someone who’s with you and sees value in you even when you dont find that value in yourself.

True love = you got lucky. Which is a shorty for “I dont know what the fuck is going on”

True love is for suckers.

Because while the beta nice guy is feeling lucky and thinks he found salvation and yada yada, the girl is all aware about his status of mr Right, knows where he fits, where he doesnt, where his strengths are, where his weakness are.

There’s no innocence about it.

You keep dreaming about true love while she’s taking this seriously. You keep being a romantic, where shes doing a real business here. A serious, make it or break it assessment. And she has to be cautious because she’s not feeling it. And since she’s not feeling it, she cant relax. So you dont “have” her after all. She had to settle – even if just for a short while – because the time ran out or her body told her so.

See. For girls, other than the kids if she has them, finding and bonding and pairing with mr Right is all that matters.

Sure, you can have “true love” when you’re in the union. You can exchange the sweet energy and couple and make the machine move and have a partnership. But with girls, the WHO is more important than the WHAT.

Guys have a surplus and can fool around. Heck. Some guys even have several families at the same time.

For girls this is deadly serious. Limited resources and investment.

LJBF -> STUD

So, back to the original M3/HUS topic (yes read that post if you havent). You had a guy who was chasing her around, putting her on a pedestal and all. A guy putting her on a pedestal = needy = loser = unattractive, which just means SHE can do better.

See, the top guys that girls are after, have options, and options mean these top guys are not worried about “true love” being the “salvation”. The beautiful thing about the top guys is that, fuck, they SCREEN as well. Top guys can afford to have standards – thus, you being upset when they dont.

How does your concept of true love stand up against “screening” girls because you have too many options, and many of them could be “true love”, and, heck, you can have “true love” with several of them at the same time?

Do I hear some hearts cracking? don’t worry baby, it gets better.

So the top guys not only have a surplus of resources but also a surplus of options where to invest them. If you know about economy you’ll see that makes all these options have a diminished value, lower than if they were your only option or if you needed any specific one as “salvation”. Salvation from WHAT for God’s sake.

So the top guys have options. This translates to cockiness, to a stronger frame control, to stronger boundaries, to a lighter humor, to cruelty in some cases, to power, to abuse of power, to increased responsibility, to self autonomy, self reliance, to not caring about others, to being a badass, to having your own ideas and goals to be more important than everyone elses -> thus leading other men into reaching your goals. Etc.

And femininity is built to screen and be attracted and want to pair and bond and reproduce with such traits. Fuck love. The girl feels attracted to such traits, just like a guy gets a boner with a good ass and tits and an angelical face. Deal with it.

So, the guys at the top have options, and they screen back.

The process of screening girls back is called teasing / push pull / etc. When a girl finds a guy whos able to screen and is not just running, chasing after each girl, all desperate because he doesnt know better nor has better, she feels “fuck, finally I found a real man”

Which is all she really cared about.

Do you see it? a real man, mr Right, is also a guy who doesnt need and is not after real love, at least not in it’s salvation/needy form. A guy who screens back and can push back. A guy who might “want” real love, but who has it with a hefty price tag. And a price tag she has to pay for.

“All the other guys… try to chase her. But here’s her number, so call her, maybe.”

So back to topic. You had this guy who was chasing her -> showing her how little he’s worth and not reading her un-boner well, till the point she says “lets just be friends”. Then this guy cuts contact? resumes his life? shows her that he doesnt “need” her and is having fun? his OWN freaking fun?

That’s an immediate boost in value, because he doesnt need, doesnt supplicate, is having fun = has more resources, has more options, maybe he’s above her after all, and maybe if she comes back and says hi he is going to SCREEN her after all, instead of falling at her feet, and thus, below her.

Girls need a guy who stands up above of herself. Girls dont need men who put them on a pedestal etc. You knew that already.

So yes, the moment he drops the pedestal, she’ll want him more.

And that’s quite smart.

No. Did they tell you that love is when you need ONE girl and put her on a pedestal high enough so she can walk all over you, and you would be nothing nothing without her and you would move the earth just to she sees you? no bro. That’s not love. That’s how you talk and feel about a fucking superstar who’s NOT LOOKING BACK at you. That’s creep talk. Move on before the cops arrive.

SO WHY BOTHER WITH A LTR?

Short answer… yes why should you?

What do you want it for? to be accepted, to be loved, to be complemented, to have salvation? why are you that lonely?

But.

We used to live in a world were we were groomed for marriage. We dont live in that world anymore. This is a double edge sword. On one hand you can do your own thing, increased freedom, more fun, less responsibility, and on the other hand:

One, that we’re not groomed for long term planning, we’re not groomed to develop character. This is a fucking serious business. Too much fun and too little responsibility = we’re prey for the system, and prey for the circumstances, and, frankly, as a whole we’re short sighted and idiotic.

And two: kids. Man. Kids needs parents. Kids need adults.  Kids need stability, they dont need fractured homes with workaway parents and single moms with several boyfriends in a row who play dad. Kids need a dad. And a mom. And need to learn healthy boundaries and learn the mechanics of loving adults who respect and nourish and complement each other. They do. We dont have enough of them.

Well thanks feminism or whatever happened to destroy the nuclear family. In the name of all the kids in the world, fuck you.

But whatever, this is the reality we live now. If you want to build a nuclear family and have healthy kids, then you NEED to screen for a long term relationship. Forget about short term fun. Start screening for character and stuff now. NOW.

This isnt what girls are screening in their majority though. Girls dont need a man to stick around, see? they dont need you to be there and provide and be a dad. They only need the fun the rush and the money / sperm, if so.

So why you, as a man, would bother with a LTR? if you want a family right now, and you’re willing to screen out 99% of the girls out there, you have to bother with it. If you’re not, then you just shouldnt.

There’s no point to attempt an LTR in fun-screening world.

I mean. What is a LTR that you know is going to end. What makes it “long”? a year? two? how much are you willing to work and invest for a “long” relationship that has a short duration? why are you going there to begin with?

If you’re a beta nice guy, the response is: it’s your only chance to get some ass. Love and affection and stability and true match is all you can aspire to and is the only card you can play in this SMP. No body wants you but maybe ONE will. And since it’s your only card, its a limited resource, and you really need it and you’d be very lucky if it played out well. Fuck, it’s already on a pedestal.

In short, dont go there. Because when you become “lucky”, in reality you just found a girl who “settled” with you but aspires to more than you. A girl who’s still in screening mode. As she should. Because she shouldnt be with you to start with, but with mr Right, and she’s not there to help you become mr Right but to remind you every day that you’re not.

LOL.

In an old fashioned world, or with an old fashioned guy and girl… screening helps to help your partner. The screening complements each other and saves the love and makes it stronger. She sees he’s not measuring up? she helps him. He sees she’s not taking care of herself (and becoming unattractive) he helps her. There are problems? each uses their intelligence instincts etc to sum. They take care of each other. Man this even brings a tear to my eye! it’s so romantic.

Have you ever seen this? yes? you want this? then drop the world and put all your pieces into a single purpose and find that one, screen the world out, drop current society. Find the one and be the one.

No? not ready to go there, not yet, not ever? is it too risky, improbable? then dont.

But as a man, whatever you choose to do, climb the ladder. Shut up, work your ass, and work the ladder. You were born here to compete and win. If you dont have the drive, cut whatever is sucking you out and find the drive. You’re here to climb that shit and own it. Just as girls are here to find mr Right. So be mr Right. The one you were born to be. Then shit get’s easy.

Become the king who owns the resources and pulls the strings and is a badass.

Then you might have true love, the one that doesnt require salvation.

You’re welcome.

22 Jun 2012, Posted by yohami in game, personal, 22 Comments

Approach Anxiety = Inferiority Complex + Shame.

So most men have trouble talking to and taking initative with women. Why? because:

A) Men are trained to put women on a pedestal. So it doesnt matter if the guy went to war and returned and built an empire and then cured cancer: when he talks to a woman, he still feels he’s talking to his superior. He has to impress a judge.

B) Men are trained to be ashamed of their sexual desires. So talking / taking initiative with women is a troubling situation: expressing interest while hiding what you really want, being aroused while hiding your cock. Awkward.

So there you go. Approach anxiety = inferiority complex + shame.

To solve this, destroy the pedestal, go up in the social ladder, embrace yourself and your desires fully, and you’re golden. You’re welcome.

And yes, women like men who dont put them on a pedestal, men who’re confident / know what they want / are not ashamed of themselves.

And no, dont pay too much attention to the girl on the video since she’s talking from the pedestal (the issue is not about how you feel about the approach, honey, that’s not what triggers the anxiety). Though if you mentally replace her saying “approaching us” with “showing us your cock”, it makes for a fun watch.

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It’s interesting that in comparison, women are trained that they should be put on a pedestal, and to take care of their “apparent” sexual desire, to look more slutty or more chaste… Or, I dont think I have heard a “woman, you should be ashamed of your sexual desires”.

Acting on those, or looking like she acted on those, yes. But the desires themselves? hum.

Why do you think that is?

16 Jun 2012, Posted by yohami in game, 6 Comments

Video Of The Day: Sluts vs Studs.

He’s funny and got a few things right, but, really?

He thinks the stud is the perfect beta.

The thinks the stud is the guy who does all the work, all the put-her-on-a-pedestal bullshit, but does it better. The perfect emotional tampon and supportive friend. The guy who cries about her cat stories and takes her to nice dinners and does all the classic supplication dance. Yeah buddy, that’s the stud! what do you think it’s their secret, man? maybe you just have to try a lil harder, ya know!? how about this pink tshirt? which flowers would she want you to bring today? cmon! show that you care! show a lil effort!

Hint: the stud is the man who makes her FORGET about all that shit, cat story included. The stud is the man she daydreams about, the man who makes her lose her sense of reality, the man she cant resist to desire to be all wrapped around, the man who takes her into HIS reality. And then this guy is so valuable every other girl also wants to jump on his lap. That’s what makes him the stud.

Not the guy who’s compensatory and supplicates for a “chance” to be in her proximity, while hidding what he really wants, and attempting a transactional relationship, because he knows she doesnt want HIM.

He thinks that when a girl falls for a stud, is really because she wanted a nice guy all along.

Somebody save this guy from becoming nicer and cutting his own balls.

Video thanks to Deep Dish.

07 Jun 2012, Posted by yohami in conversations, game, 39 Comments

Deti Wisdom: Never, Never Be Friends With Any Woman Who Let’s-Just-Be-Friends You

Im starting a campaign so Deti starts his own blog. He just left this at Dalrock’s. Only edited for coherence and dramatism.

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What I’m going to say will sound harsh, so I apologize in advance.

She LJBF’d you after you showed interest. You befriended her anyway. She was seeing someone else and is now out of reach. You don’t like LJBF, you resent it, and you’re vacillating between making another try at her affections or just being friends or walking away.

Walking away and cutting off all contact with her is the best option. Never, never be friends with any woman who LJBFs you explicitly or implicitly. What are you getting out of this “friendship”? She gets affirmation and validation in the form of attention from a man whom she knows wants a romantic relationship with her. You get nothing. She is using you and wasting (at the very least) your time.

Do absolutely nothing for a woman who LJBFs you. Do not spend time with her unless you and she happen to be in the same place with mutual friends. Do not give her any one on one time. Do not be her friend. Do not indulge her by listening to her stories of her a**hole boyfriends, her pump & dump misadventures, or how “I just want a nice guy who will treat me right.” Don’t return her phone calls or texts. Under no circumstances should you ever spend any money on her or give her any help with anything.

Women are the gatekeepers of sex. But YOU are the gatekeeper of your investment and commitment. The things you have of value are your time, money, expertise and resources. These things are valuable, and they should not be expended on anyone who is (1) unworthy; or (2) unwilling to reciprocate. This woman wants you to invest in her for free — she wants you to give her your time, money and resources, but she wants, nay, expects, to give you nothing back in return.

Her view on it is that all she has to do is grace you with her very presence, to dollop out small amounts of her attention on you, and you should simply want to reciprocate with your time.

No. That is a waste of your time, and you should put an end to it now.

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Men who do this for women are called emotional tampons. The analogy is sound. The woman bleeds her emotions all over the man, who is expected to absorb them. The woman then discards the man and gives him no further thought.

03 Jun 2012, Posted by yohami in conversations, game, relationships, 15 Comments

Ah. Girls who have bitch shields.

In response to Badger

Ah. Girls who have bitch shields. Surprise surprise: the “shield” is actually a part of herself. One that she uses when she feels above of something. Which she likes. Hint: it’s not going anywhere.

The bitchy side doest mean she has more value. It means that a part of her is rotten. Like a rotten fruit. What do you do when you find a rotten fruit… do you try to spin it harder and chew it carefully so you can get to the good part? or do you drop it and get a good one? or, sure you can chew the whole thing, but is that what you do when you have options?

In order to get on top of her bitch shield and disarm her you have to possess more value than her, so she lowers her bitchy game and and gives you a bridge – a reason to keep interacting. But if you have more value than her, why exactly are you trying to win over a bitch?

That game is rigged to be a hell of a sour ride.

In short, don’t waste your time with them. The worst thing that could happen is that you work your ass and actually get her, and then have to sort through her bitchy and non bitchy crazy-making sides on a daily basis.

Twice the effort and half the juice.

27 May 2012, Posted by yohami in game, inner game, politics, 7 Comments

Why Women Choose Bad Boys? Is It Because They Get Tricked Into Viewing Bad Boys As Nice Guys?

Read the scientific rationalization, or the thread at Dalrock’s

“Previous research has shown in the week near ovulation women become attracted to sexy, rebellious and handsome men like George Clooney or James Bond [...] Under the hormonal influence of ovulation, women delude themselves into thinking that the sexy bad boys will become devoted partners and better dads,” Durante said. “When looking at the sexy cad through ovulation goggles, Mr. Wrong looked exactly like Mr. Right.”

No. Idiot. You’re rationalizing bad boy attraction, so you can keep the comfortable lie that nice guys trigger any attraction at all, that women are “thinking long term” when it comes to attraction, and that all women want is to find a good husband… but they pick bad boys who are unsuitable for marriage, every time their body wants to procreate, by mistake!

That, and that whenever women do something that is morally wrong, it’s because somehow they have been tricked into it, and therefore they are except of responsibility –  and the responsibility goes to the nearest man we can dump the blame on.

On this episode, the poor girls have been tricked, abused and manipulated by their own hormones! Bad, bad hormonal cycle! Leave women alone! These poor girls without any agency nor intelligence nor accountability!

How dare you? You evil, evil biology! Leave women alone! I warn you!

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“oh hi… I know I only met you a few hours ago and Im already sucking your cock… but it’s ONLY because… I thought you were going to marry me? oh no? my body has fooled me yet again! … I was only horny and lonely and went to some party and got drunk and flirted with some guys, bounced out boring guys and ended with you… all confident and hot and dominant and you only wanted to FUCK me ohh yes yes fuck me good good…. Im so naive!! I totally thought I was fucking with a nicer guy!!”

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On a similar note, I dont think we’re going to see a scientific study rationalizing that when a man gets a hard on in presence of  a hot girl, he’s really thinking long term and picturing her as a nurturing caring mom, and that men’s drives are in sync with morality and virtue, and that any “mistake” is just the result of some evil external force that… produces erections and makes us do stupid shit.

We’re not going to see it because men are expected to be pigs.

It’s the fact that women are pigs, too, what needs to be hidden and rationalized away in this culture.

But we know better.

25 May 2012, Posted by yohami in game, inner game, 19 Comments

Do you want to be successful with women, for real?

There is a contempt point that seems to elude Tyler and every other PUA instructor, even when this is at the very foundation of Game:

1 ) Women are attracted to high value, confident, dominant, successful, abundance minded, social proofed, cocky, funny, resourceful, grown up, attractive, men.

2 ) The one with less value chases the one with higher value. The one with the more needy frame concedes to the one with the less needy frame. The one who needs the less controls the interaction.

3 ) 1+2 = women are naturally attracted to high value men who dont need them back as much. Once in this position, women surrender and are happy to be led, and they complement their man in every way they can and keep him happy, because he’s still a catch. She follows him, he doesnt follow her. It’s a dance.

4 ) All this wording is just: Hypergamy.

5 ) When other girls want what she has, that makes her desire increase.

6 ) Once she’s attracted to a man, once that fully kicked in, nothing else matters. As long as the strong attraction is there, as long as his high-value is there, he can do anything, other people can do and say anything: the bond will stay. Like Rollo says, “Hypergamy doesn’t care”

7 ) In other words, Hypergamy also trumps Game. Or, everything done under Hypergamy, either increases attraction or is invisible to attraction.

8 ) If she wants a man she makes it easy for him. If she doesn’t want a man, she makes it hard for him. And when I say easy / hard, I really mean those words.

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Good? we all know that right? so.

1 ) You only need to “approach” women because they are not chasing you.

2 ) Every time you “open” a girl you have to establish the whole frame again? because you have nothing built.

3 ) What keeps you in the “approach” phase is that you’re low value. Actually, you keep playing the game because it reinforces your low value. You get tiny, short validations that pump your value up, a little, and make you have insecure dreams of glory and “what could have been”, then you go back to the comfort of the low value. You’re playing an addiction game.

Duh.

4 ) If you’re low value, your interactions with girls will be of the hard kind. If you’re high value, your interactions will be the easy kind. If you plan to have thousands of interactions, on which flavor do you want them? easy or hard?

5 ) Having lots of hard, low value interactions is not how you raise your value. Losing is not how you win. There’s failure and defeat and loss and mistakes on the roadmap, of course, but losing is not how you win. Winning is how you win.

6 ) So how do you want your next 1000 interactions to be like, again? easy, or hard? do you want an uphill battle, or a landslide? do you want to be embraced, or rejected? easy, or hard? abundance, or scarcity? success, or failure? what are you after?

Do you want to be successful with women, for real?

Make it easy.

Instead of keeping your current value and position in the chain, and approaching thousands of girls while trying to emulate upper value behaviors… upper your own value in the chain, and socialize everyone, thousands of people, while you’re at it, and develop real upper value behaviors that are consistent with your real upper value in the chain.

Grow up your persona and your value and make thousands of relationships that STAY. Build a net of connections that STAY. Build.

Build up your value. And socialize. Do you like game? then incorporate Game, whatever you like about it, or all of it, into you. Make what you really like, default, so there’s never a “deflating” back to the “real you”. Change who you really are. Up your value. And interact with a lot of people from there, as you go up.

I can’t say this enough.

So. You’ve seen famous, powerful people, business owners, etc? the guys other guys treat with deference and women flirt with? you’ve seen the guy who clearly owns his circumstances and has everything working for him, and emanates that before even saying a word?

“Approaching” doesnt enter his lexicon.

Fuck. I dont “approach”. I TALK. I MEET PEOPLE. I FORM RELATIONSHIPS. WITH PEOPLE WHO WANTS TO BE WITH ME AND I WANT TO BE WITH. But most of it, really, is just filtering.

Compare. Approaching vs Filtering.

You’re better off spending 3 years building up your value as a man and playing a cumulative game and growth game and socializing with lots of people and women, and knowing what you’re doing, than, spending 3 years with your current value and “approaching” thousands of women while improving your superficial “verbal / behavioral game”, that you’re using so you dont feel that bad about your real low value, anyway.

Oh boy.

And over 10 years? it’s a no brainer.

You know that “natural” PUAs keep talking about? A natural is a guy who doesnt “pretend” to have value, but just has it. So have it.

Alpha up.

If you want success make it real.

30 Apr 2012, Posted by yohami in game, 2 Comments

Video of the day: Aloofness

Everything you wanted to know about aloofness but were afraid to meow.

Video thanks to Koanic.

17 Apr 2012, Posted by yohami in game, 0 Comments

Video of the day – three simple rules.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gBVuAGFcGKY

Video thanks to Good Luck Chuck.

31 Mar 2012, Posted by yohami in game, inner game, reader mail, 21 Comments

Reader mail: How should I respond to a girl staring directly into my eyes?

HC asks me about eye contact:

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How should I respond to a girl staring directly into my eyes?

How should I respond to strangers?

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First a frame change:

“they are trying to test my alpha-ness.”

It’s not a test.

It’s a taste.

She is “wondering” what’s your alphaness. She’s curious. She wants to find out more. If you frame it as a “test” then you’ll want to “perform and score”, like she’s your judge, placing her and her interests above of yours, and by doing so, your alphaness will be low, so her curiosity won’t be satiated, and your imaginary test will fail.

So she is staring at you with status curiosity, she’s tasting you. What should you do?

Look back at her with sexual curiosity. Taste her.

Try to figure just by looking, how ready is she to go fuck with you. Look for fertility cues, look at her facial expression. Measure if she would be a pleasant fuck, picture yourself with her. Is she a moaner? what’s her favorite position? is she good at it? what’s her number? would you do it in an elevator with her? How compatible are you? vibe her, smell her, like she’s a sexual flower.

She’ll know when you’re doing that. You pinged her back.

She´ll blush and look away, then look at you again, or she´ll keep staring at you with anticipation: Go and say hi.

Or she will keep an analytical stare and then break it – like she wants to be worked for: Hold it. She´ll come when you’re with another girl.

Or she will be disinterested, or you will, in which case, it doesnt matter.

But if you liked her and you’re curious, go and say hi, find out if she’s cool.

As simple as that.

23 Feb 2012, Posted by yohami in game, thoughts, 15 Comments

Looks matter, but looks is not what gets you laid.

Looks matter, but looks is not what gets you laid. Even if you´re stunning the girl is gonna put you through tests. I see the order of importance as:

Game (personality, masculinity, drive, demeanor, charm, dominance)
Social proof (the throne other people puts you in)
Assets (stuff you own and display)
Looks (body, clothes)

Some of these are interchangeable and every bulletpoint influences the rest.

Say. Your looks say a lot about the rest of these items. If you´re fat and smell silly it says a lot about your game, social proof etc. Looks are the presentation card, and they convey the rest of the traits. So in a way, looks are “everything”. But they are everything because of what they say about you.

Assets. The girls you attract with assets are not the good kind. But again, assets can produce attraction as they also convey personality traits, game, etc. It´s different if you own a motorcycle or if you own a family motorhome or a corvette. What you own says stuff about you, what kind of person you are, what´s your position in the hierarchy, what´s your tribe.

Social proof. This is the vital external thing. Because girls go with the popular, center of the social circle guy, and in society is where your dominance is measured. This is what conveys safety. Girls are herd animals – there´s nothing more attractive than the center of the herd. Social proof or lack of thereof says important stuff about you.

And all this stuff that says stuff about you is going to be used to measure you. Measure what?

Game. At the end this is what counts, because when its you and her alone, all the other stuff has to be true reflection of who you really are, and it has to show in your interpersonal interactions. If there´s dissonance you´re up for a long, uphill and losing battle. Everything else emanates from here.

In short looks, assets, social proof are measurable things that interconnect with each other, and are all reflection of your Game. And your Game itself is just another reflection of the “true” you, which in this context is just your genes, since this is a breeding / reproductive game.