31 Mar 2012, Posted by yohami in game,inner game,reader mail, 21 Comments.
HC asks me about eye contact:
How should I respond to a girl staring directly into my eyes?
Women have been doing this to me often practically since I’ve left high school 10 years ago.
Sometimes I got scared because (I’m stupid), but most of the time I just don’t know how to respond. These women stare straight into my eyes, I stare back into their eyes and then I am the one to usually look to the side (before I would look down).
What should I do? are they trying to test my alpha-ness? It would be very helpful if you could answer this question. Because I have had some very attractive women stare right into my eyes, aggressively and I know that I have missed out on some amazing opportunities with women around my age (29). And now younger women are doing it to me, which is allot less intimidating.
How should I respond to strangers?
First a frame change:
“they are trying to test my alpha-ness.”
It’s not a test.
It’s a taste.
She is “wondering” what’s your alphaness. She’s curious. She wants to find out more. If you frame it as a “test” then you’ll want to “perform and score”, like she’s your judge, placing her and her interests above of yours, and by doing so, your alphaness will be low, so her curiosity won’t be satiated, and your imaginary test will fail.
So she is staring at you with status curiosity, she’s tasting you. What should you do?
Look back at her with sexual curiosity. Taste her.
Try to figure just by looking, how ready is she to go fuck with you. Look for fertility cues, look at her facial expression. Measure if she would be a pleasant fuck, picture yourself with her. Is she a moaner? what’s her favorite position? is she good at it? what’s her number? would you do it in an elevator with her? How compatible are you? vibe her, smell her, like she’s a sexual flower.
She’ll know when you’re doing that. You pinged her back.
She´ll blush and look away, then look at you again, or she´ll keep staring at you with anticipation: Go and say hi.
Or she will keep an analytical stare and then break it – like she wants to be worked for: Hold it. She´ll come when you’re with another girl.
Or she will be disinterested, or you will, in which case, it doesnt matter.
But if you liked her and you’re curious, go and say hi, find out if she’s cool.
As simple as that.
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