30 Dec 2011, Posted by yohami in relationships,thoughts, 22 Comments.
And this [click here!] is what I state I havent seen in the world.
Frankly, I havent even seen people aiming for that.
What I see is people facing relationships in terms of benefits. So the relationships are just means to get something. Its a business.
In business, the rule is that you get something valuable in exchange for something less valuable and thats how you make a profit. Thats how you make your happiness. Everything adds up to the price and you add your costs and margins all there. Then add some up percent so in the case the customer wants to negotiate, you can offer a discount while still making a margin. And since business are set in a marketplace, its a constant push pull with the prices going up and down and demand and competition and some business go bankrupt, just a few make it big and most just barely cover the costs.
The sex marketplace has the business model. Natural selection, hormones, competition, value, settling, switching. A great design by nature or whatever deity you decide to believe in. Awesome for evolution. How about relationships?
What I see out there is people treating their relationships with the business mentality.
People want the benefits associated with relationships, sex, company, love, family, stuff, getting their needs met. Avoiding loneliness and filling a void. In exchange of something. Its less about the relationship itself than its about all these aggregates. And each and every aggregate has a price point, a number.
Think of the shadows of gray here:
- I want to go to the game with you, I know you love that and I want to share it. Whats your fav team?
- OK… Im going to the game. But you have to come to see my concert. And learn the lyrics.
So that second line is great game right? most of the game stuff is about learning the business aspect of relationships. You can profit. I did. I do. But how about the relationship itself? beyond of the mutual exchange of benefits? Beyond the traffic of values?
What I see out there is that its never about the relationship itself, so it eventually deteriorates and becomes sick, but the parties dont want to quit it because of the pain of losing all these benefits. “Nobody to join me at the game/concert, and our shared assets, and I need the sex, I dont want to be alone, I dont want the change”. Or sometimes one of them just quits and steals all of the benefits, inducing bankrupcy in the other party.
You know that story.
So how many relationships out there without the business model?
I have never seen it. I want one though.
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