Women’s natural role is to collect, preserve, filter, judge and nurture, from the pool of things given to them.

A woman´s world is like a garden of treasures. Women´s mission is maintaining, growing that garden, to attract the wonders of the outside world, and, also defending that garden and its treasures from the unwanted.

This is something I think about often when comparing it to the man´s world, which is mostly out there, in the horizon, as a land to be conquered, where its all about mission, drive and abstraction. Men attack the tide and fail. Until the tide teaches them how. Then they master the tide.

But the point today is that:

Men adapt their behavior to master the tide. Men make the tide their bitch.

Women tame the tide to make it fit on the garden. Or they create a garden around the tide.

Men subjugate. Women possess. Men conquer. Women seduce.

And the point is:

Changing behavior to get different results is counter intuitive for women. Whats intuitive for them is “being” different to get different results.

And for men “being” different is counter intuitive. They want to know what should they do different, instead of how they should “be”. When lost, they cry: “what should I do? just tell me what I have to do!” instead of “I feel horrible, how should I be?” or “you are horrible, you should be different”

When its about behavior, women feel its everyone else who should change their behavior to give them the results they want. If she has to work hard = it will feel forced, it wont naturally happen, its not meant to be, it wont feel good. Wont be natural. Wont fit.

Even the women who are trained to work hard and achieve things, in their mind, they didnt get the rewards because of the work, but because they are “special” or “deserve it” as in the work is just an extension of who they are. And if things go bad “they dont deserve it” either. Its never about the actions but about the being, the personal. Like actions shouldnt matter.

While men value hard work, on its own, and evaluate the person on the basis on the work itself, and the amount of work and challenge make the whole thing worthier. Men appreciate when things happen against what was meant to be. For men things are more valuable when they are crafted, constructed, when something got forced and defeated and conquered. When something was owned against its original will. When nature was made surrender.

We live in such different worlds.

You can do yourself a service by acquiring both worlds. Switching from the compass to the square from the magic to the logic whenever it fits. Because both systems are “smart” within some boundaries, and incredibly stupid in others. One doesnt fit all.

For a man, its useful understanding how nature also works in the terms of “beings” and leaps and jumps in the vacuum and how the tide can love you, when it doesnt want to be forced.

And women would benefit from understanding the world in mechanical, logical, action based, impersonal terms. Because the universe is all of that, too.