25 Dec 2011, Posted by yohami in personal,relationships,thoughts, 11 Comments.
A girl goes into casual sex looking for a relationship?
Short answer: bullshit.
Long answer, its true, but using “relationship” as a wide term that can be many things, half of which can be very toxic and wrong.
What you have to know is that if a girl is engaging in sex with you, she wants “more”. This “more” can be a happy ending monogamy where rainbows happen. Or it can be something totally different, dark twisted and abusive.
When you guys and girls come up with this crap that women go wanting relationships etc its like all the rainbows are included and heaven is just waiting to happen and that women are just powerless victims who should get what they want, because all they want is right.
Well, they are not victims, and there´s not a single reason why they should just get what they want, at every changing minute, when all they want is “more”. Hungry more. Usually bad-for-you more: want you to give more, you to work more, you to fulfill more – squeeze you more, until she wants more from someone else.
And a lot of the time what they want is not even good for themselves, and “more” doesnt mean there is anything at all for YOU to begin with.
Otherwise you could go and marry just any girl since they all want “relationships”. Right?
Well “relationship” aint a fucking holy grial.
There are hundreds of millions of people out there and you cant just do “relationship”, “company partner” nor “share property” with all of them. Bad for your health. You have to decide at which level / under which set of rules you are to interact with each one.
And theres NOTHING wrong with casual sex for either sex when done with honesty – just like theres NOTHING wrong with having superficial and mundane friends.
And while its ok to want more, no one is entitled to more.
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