25 Dec 2011, Posted by yohami in personal,relationships,thoughts, 11 Comments.
A girl goes into casual sex looking for a relationship?
A girl goes into casual sex looking for a relationship?
Short answer: bullshit.
Long answer, its true, but using “relationship” as a wide term that can be many things, half of which can be very toxic and wrong.
What you have to know is that if a girl is engaging in sex with you, she wants “more”. This “more” can be a happy ending monogamy where rainbows happen. Or it can be something totally different, dark twisted and abusive.
When you guys and girls come up with this crap that women go wanting relationships etc its like all the rainbows are included and heaven is just waiting to happen and that women are just powerless victims who should get what they want, because all they want is right.
Well, they are not victims, and there´s not a single reason why they should just get what they want, at every changing minute, when all they want is “more”. Hungry more. Usually bad-for-you more: want you to give more, you to work more, you to fulfill more – squeeze you more, until she wants more from someone else.
And a lot of the time what they want is not even good for themselves, and “more” doesnt mean there is anything at all for YOU to begin with.
Otherwise you could go and marry just any girl since they all want “relationships”. Right?
Well “relationship” aint a fucking holy grial.
There are hundreds of millions of people out there and you cant just do “relationship”, “company partner” nor “share property” with all of them. Bad for your health. You have to decide at which level / under which set of rules you are to interact with each one.
And theres NOTHING wrong with casual sex for either sex when done with honesty – just like theres NOTHING wrong with having superficial and mundane friends.
And while its ok to want more, no one is entitled to more.
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11 Comments
December 25, 2011 3:29 am
Rivelino
love it.
so good.
the assumption that all girls want “relationships”, and that relationships = good for the girl = good for the man = good for society = rainbows and flowers and world peace = BULLSHIT.
December 25, 2011 3:32 am
Gmac @GmacGame
She is right about one thing. If it’s good sex and she cooks for me in the morning, it’s a fast track to the top of my fuck buddy list.
December 25, 2011 8:56 am
PUA Guru Finally Comes Out!
Yes women can have casual sex without wanting more (of either the sex OR the man – LOL), but if you’re really good in bed and she experiences multiple orgasms, she will want to keep you around as at least a regular fuck buddy.
I hear that there are “nice guys” out there who will be friends and do favors for women in hopes that the woman will become his girlfriend, so that appears to be the male equivalent of women using sex to get boyfriends.
December 25 2011 19:39 pm
Nestorius
"but if you’re really good in bed and she experiences multiple orgasms, she will want to keep you around as at least a regular fuck buddy"
They call this situation: a woman in love.
December 25 2011 11:11 am
yohami
yes
December 26, 2011 12:37 am
PUA Guru Finally Comes Out!
“They call this situation: a woman in love.”
Those who do confuse love with hormonal highs. One of the reasons why marriages don’t last a lifetime anymore.
December 28 2011 19:42 pm
Nestorius @Twitter Name
"Those who do confuse love with hormonal highs. One of the reasons why marriages don’t last a lifetime anymore."
As if love is not a hormonal high.
December 28, 2011 4:36 am
Sasha
Switch men for women, sex for relationship and most of your post stays true.
December 29, 2011 2:50 am
PUA Guru Finally Comes Out!
“As if love is not a hormonal high.”
In the beginning. That’s called romance, newness, excitement, etc. Parents experience the same thing with a newborn. One’s “love” toward one’s child later transforms into a more stable commitment to their wellbeing, no matter how much you may want to “kill” the little wippersnappers.
Same with romantic love.
January 9, 2012 2:46 am
Natasha @Twitter Name
“Love” in the sense that the majority uses the word IS a hormonal high. It’s this honeymoon stage of butterflies and mushy feelings. It’s the reason romantic comedies are popular. Unfortunately, it is what most women (and maybe men?) are looking for believing this is what real love is. The problem with this is that while this is all important in the beginning of a relationship, what needs to develop from the relationship is true friendship. But not just friendship, something beyond that. Something with a deeper respect and understanding. A place where jealousy and fear doesn’t exist because you completely trust that other person with you! By you I mean your essence. How you think, what you feel, who you are. There’s an understanding of each person’s perspective. But maybe I’m just rambling. haha Does any of that make sense?
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