For a guy to become Alpha, he has to look for a pack of dogs / an area of interest where he can capitalize his attributes and develop Alpha.
In other words, maximize his internal abilities, maximize his social dominance, and minimize his weakness.
In other words, improve himself. A lot. And get happier.
There are so many areas of interest and so many different stuff people can do, so many different packs of dogs. The attributes required to belong to a pack, and therefore to be the Alpha of one pack are different to the attributes needed to be Alpha in another pack. At the end, however, there´s a constant, minimal set of traits that identify the Alpha:
The stronger dude on the group, the more adept, the one others look up to, the one who capitalizes the resources, the one needed, the one confident, the one the others want to challenge, the leader, the cocky, the self reassured, the one having the most fun while carrying most of the responsibility, the one who sets the rules, the owner, the master, the boss, the legend, the big cock, the one.
But being the king of the wrong pack will make you miserable. And being a pawn on the right pack will fulfill you. So the pack, which determines your base identity, is the first choice. Having the balls to quit when you have to quit and the strength to grab and choose and to stand for your choices and belong where you have to belong, is the first step towards Alpha.
Every dude out there owes that to himself. To find a place where he fits, to find a place where he can grow, and then grow to his max potential and then some and change things forever in the most epic way possible. Most of us were born with the desire, the pain, and the drive, to climb that ladder and smash it. Of course not “everyone” can do it. Its hard work. But thats how big rewards come in life. There´s no easy way to the big pot.
Alpha is the reserved chair for the best. You can have all the big rewards when you are the best. In your specific dog pack.