Great analogy. It helps put things in better perspective for the game-deniers and women out there too.

Most skills (like game) can be learned with enough time, determination, and discipline.

It’s the types of guys who give up learning to play an instrument, learning a new language, or losing weight that just don’t have what it takes to develop a life skill into something mastered.

Yohami, I also think this “mastery of a skill” issue ties in with your “Boys Don’t Cry” post about mastering the emotions.

I know that you gave some pointers back there, but maybe you could flesh out the “emotional mastery” subject matter a bit more for us in a future post?

Thanks.

I believe all men have the ‘winner / alpha’ genes in them. (Well I’m sure there’s the 1% that doesn’t). Because men need to be able to reward themselves with feel good hormones and a sense of entitlement by moving up the ladder.

But I don’t think there is anything wrong with the ladder. It’s just that the ladder was made for a different time (like all humans).

The agricultural and industrial revolutions are accidents in a way… we were never meant to live like this.

What to change our society to fit our instincts (genes) or our instincts to fit society? There will always be conflict and friction between the two.

Hello my friend,

I like this post a lot, and here I want to offer my perspective on this, for you to maybe enjoy.

A long time ago Western culture was hijacked (“revolutionized”) by an unhealthy, paranoid ideology which emphasized the source of man’s worth as something external to him.

The persons responsible were not philosophers, nor artists, but theologians, ideologues, academics, etc. They may be called “have-nots” on account of not really having anything to say, but instead only something to prove (women especially are good at feeling the difference between expressions of love and expressions of need).

Those kinds of people have been around forever, but it was only in the last 500 years that ideology (as opposed to mythology, or poetry) became our dominant social force.

On a larger social scale this meant the end of life itself as the recognized (and ultimately unknowable) precursor to man’s authority, and the beginning of conscious will (AKA memory) “leading” the way. Passion, vision, emotions, feeling (which come like thieves in the night) were replaced by conventionalization based on memory, ideology, preconception… attempts to control outcomes.

Eventually the revolution splintered and splintered (away from its initial progenation as lutheranism, calvanism etc) while of course maintaining the ‘grasping for one’s very own worth’ metaphysic that we see in the modern “beta male” (through the ‘enlightenment’ and materialistic view of the universe etc, etc, all placing man’s relative worth as something alien to him and requiring ‘effort’ and ‘progress’).

In large part, we have since gotten rid of the ‘fire and brimstone’ and all the rest of the religious-poetic imagery, and perhaps you can see why this was an inevitability in an age where people are conned at such a young age to begin groping fiercely after their very own security. It imbues their struggle with too much significance.

Nevertheless, we’ve kept the puritan metaphysic, only having dispersed our idols into thousands of little distractions of varying importance, still with the overarching goal of securing and controlling ourselves toward a ‘secure place’ that remains, inevitably, a burden and an illusion.

The effective result is the burdening of youth with an extended ‘adolescent period’ during which they are loaded with enormous amounts of baggage in the form of conventions/conceptions that are made out to be more important than life, while their inner feelings, passions and drives are treated as distractions in the effort to continually earn their very own worth.

In short, I think that “beta” is a recent phenomenon that is relative to the lengthening adolescent period of young males (and over the last 30 or so years, females too, as both are drawn away from their natural polarity and toward gender neutrality, such being the nature of a life lead by conventions).

So I agree and like your post but be careful because the ladder is not real and only conjecture that can be acknowledged as illusion at any time. Beta is only beta inside the mind of the beta. Alpha is not alpha by contingency (beating the beta on the ladder) but by being beyond judgment from the very beginning.

Jack

Blah, blah, blah.

My head appears caved on one side. My teeth are yellowish. There’s an old red pimple scar on the tip of my nose. My ears protrude, my legs are visibly too short for my torso, and my chin is weak relative to my face. My face is always greasy. I’m only 5’8″. My head is roundish, so my facial hair (nearly black) makes my face just look fat if I do not trim it obsessively in minute detail. No matter how little I eat (down to 1000 cals now), how many sit-ups I do or how far & hard I walk or run, I maintain pudgy obliques that give me a belly dancer’s body. I am built like a Neanderthal.

There’s a whole bundle of awkward fucking genes for you, pretty boy. Don’t fucking tell me all this can be converted to alphahood. I was made to throw spears and kill rival tribesmen, not navigate the subtle choreography of a woman’s displeasure.

Bitches ought to be in chains.

“In short, I think that “beta” is a recent phenomenon that is relative to the lengthening adolescent period of young males”

Actually, certain kinds of alpha are prolonged puberty too: just f*cking.

Great post.