27 Sep 2011, Posted by yohami in game,relationships, 8 Comments.
Men quantity and women quality. Over time, neither produces monogamy.
Men quantity and women quality. Over time, neither produces monogamy.
While men want to be with a wide array of different women and different quality at the same time (meaning, from hot to not so hot women at the same time), women want to always be with the hotter, top and most solicited flavor of the moment.
Men want the most deals they can get. Women want the best deal they can get. Men want to open many doors. Women want to open the right door. Men are about taking risks and pushing the limit, losing big or winning big. Women are about doing the safe bet.
So women want the hot flavor of the moment, the same that everyone wants: the safe bet. And men are constantly fighting each other, often to death, to be on that hot top spot, because being on the hot spot is the key to open every door. Since the men in the spot are replaced often, women tastes also change often.
Disclaimer – women dont just want to “fuck” but they want “relationships” with the guys on top, and by relationships I mean they want complete dedication, attention, resources and focus from the guy they pick, and want that to last, at least, enough time to produce beautiful offspring. By “relationship” I dont mean they want to support the guy, be his partner and stay with him because he needs it. Its not a relationship for the guy, but a relationship for her. Cool?
So women want to breed and be associated with the flavor of the moment and the top guy, and will always want this, to be with one of the top guys – not with the top guy she picked a while ago, after he is no longer on top.
Monogamy? for the man, its unnatural. For the woman, only as long the guy she is with is the flavor of the moment – the king. Only that the king, in our culture, is so relative and brief.
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September 27, 2011 8:48 pm
Ted @Twitter Name
So the only way a man can expect to get and keep a good woman is to snag her when he is at his prime, and manage to keep her until she is past hers so she has limited exit options?
Good thing for guys their market value actually goes up with age through their 30′s and then dips off slowly as compared to women.
I get that this is mostly biology driven, but at some point in most societies it was controlled by social pressure. I’m thinking if we don’t turn that pressure back up here in the US, we are going to be in deep trouble.
September 27 2011 20:52 pm
yohami
She can also "love you". You know, like in "love", "YOU". But thats a rare, so rare thing to find in my experience. Best way to keep a good woman is to be the MAN so it doesnt take effort on your part but she always wants to be around, be it because she loves "you" or, more often because she loves being with you.
September 27, 2011 11:01 pm
Ted
I get all that. But the truth is you can’t always be the best man available. Someone, somewhere is always better than you at something. And, you can’t help but get older, in which case even if you ARE the best, you are still old.
So again, without society putting pressure on women to stay married and committed to their husbands, what does that leave us with? If women truly do always keep an eye out for a better man to hitch themselves to, is there really any hope for a life-long commitment anymore?
September 28, 2011 5:21 am
This is Jen @Twitter Name
Its not as hopeless as it sounds. I belive it IS possible to find a good match and stay “in love”. I didn’t get it right the first time. Looking back I was in a classic beta bind with my first hubby. But this time around I (we) got it right. 15 years together so far and the sex is hotter than ever, and the love is deeper. Maybe I just got lucky? who knows?
September 28 2011 05:23 am
yohami
15 years are not luck. It sounds like you did it right.
October 4, 2011 10:19 am
Jack @Twitter Name
A man sows his own garden. Women come with the man and if he sows doubts then he will reap doubts.
To be with a man, a lover, an “alpha” perhaps, is to experience no ‘gaps’ in his love such that would cause the feminine mind to doubt. You are deeper than you give yourself credit for; monogamy is natural precisely because the highest attainment is to know the depth and breadth of one’s own soul and the infinite beauty therein (there is nothing higher so who or what is she getting distracted by? where is her boredom born if not in your very own mind first, and hers second?)
October 04 2011 23:30 pm
yohami
Pure gold bro.
May 14, 2012 12:08 am
Rivelino
perfectly said!
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